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writes:I have a huge problem. I have a big crush on my best friend's older brother. I'm 16 and he is 22. I have talked to him about it and he told me that he would wait for me to turn 18. Am i wasting my time waiting, or am i doing the right thing? I just need someone to tell me that i'm not crazy.
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reader, gothish  +, writes (15 April 2008):
you're not crazy. you could enjoy being sixteen for the moment, have boyfriends, stay up late, get in trouble.... you know the kind of stuff. just live for the moment. when you turn eighteen, talk to him then, f you both still feel the same, then go for it, but two years is a long time, and things can change, so don't waist the time you have.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (15 April 2008):
Hell yeah, you are doing the right thing.
If you want this relationship to work long term then you are going to have to have both sets of parents onside.
Your Dad will not be happy with his 16 yearold daughter going out with a 22 yearold. But at 18 and 24, it will be different. This is because dads are stupid, and will always see you as their little girl who needs protecting. I'm 25 and when I go home for a few days and go on a night out, my Dad still wants to know who I'm meeting and what time I'll be home.
Everyone is going to say to this guy that you are too young, he will ruin your chances at school, he will hurt her, he has nothing in common with you.
They may all be wrong! BUT, if you really like this guy and want a real chance with him, then do you really want all that extra pressure?
Waiting will be hard but it will prove to him, to yourself, to everyone in the world, that this is something that you are really sure about.
Good Luck!! xx
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