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*ourtneym323
writes:ok, I have a boyfriend and i dont know what he is doing half of the time and he does not call me or e-mail me at all. I feel like im doing somethink wrong. Maybe i should not be with him. What do you think? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2007): Its not u, its him. But u need to ask urself these questions, do u really need that type of stress in ur life,
do u believe u deserve better? U are a lady and u want to be treated like a lady, not like some animal on the street that u just walk by and not get noticed. He has other things going on. And trust me on this one, if u ever get an eerie feeling in ur stomach and u feel something is not right, 9 times out 10 its for real. Drop him quick and run!
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reader, DV1 +, writes (24 May 2007):
 Sometimes there's a reason why guys get distant. Instead of thinking only of yourself, ask him what's going on. When you really love someone, you have to be willing to put yourself aside and just listen. It seems like he's either not ready to commit himself to you, or something unexpected is going on that's keeping him from being able to be good to you. Don't make any decisions without knowing both sides of the situation.
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reader, deejuliet +, writes (24 May 2007):
 I agree with both the previous posts. You need to talk to your boyfriend. Communication is essential! How can he rectify a problem if he doesnt know a problem exists? Also, I will point out that at your young age a relationship should be a lot more casual than an adult relationship and constant calls and knowing what the other is doing and spending all your time together is a bit much for this age. Get out and be a kid! Do fun things with your friends, do fun classes and activities, explore the world! There is pleeeeeenty of time to have a boyfriend, only a little time to be a kid. Enjoy is while you can.
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reader, nicola79  +, writes (24 May 2007):
 i agree with dragonette, talk to him and find out how he feels. but he may just want to hang out with his mated and do lad things. if you dont feel happy then i think you have your ansew flower. you are still young and it would be horrible for you to sit wating around for him to ring. get your self out with your friends and have a good time. if he doesnt ring you then dont worry because you will find someone else when the time is right.
enjoy your life sweety ok.xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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reader, dragonette  +, writes (24 May 2007):
 Maybe you should talk to him about how you're feeling. Ask him why he never calls you. Depending on his answers and feedback you can take a decision of wether to dump him or not.
You can't expect him contribute to solving the relationship problems if he isn't aware of them.
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