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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2011): first i wanna tell you that i'm in love too but when i had him i didn't appreciate him well and i lost him now there's really nothing i can do to get him back but the best thing you can actually do is to simply tell him you love him before is too late because remember life is short and you have no time to worry about what to do, just do it!
if he doesn't feel something about you and he doesn't care then i only have to to tell you that you just don't deserve him and the only thing you have to do is to let go:|
remember life is short do what you wanna do before is too late;/
wish you good luck:)
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reader, jelisha +, writes (9 January 2011):
..well,,let me start off by saying love is a strong word nd it is so buetiful nn numerouse ways..when you really love someone,yor heart will go out to them,every time you see them a huge smile apears on your face nn your demple seems to sink deeper nd deeper.when that persons the only person you think about constantly.when your wondering what that person is doing or is that person thinking ov you 2oo..if you feel like or no that he's the one (it's love!.)..when you give that person a look or smile no other recives it's love..when you try to spend all your time with that person and say freak your friends.. your nn love with him/her..when you and your love join together hold on to that person and treat him/her right bcus no1 deserves to have a broken heart especially if your really n love.. that's my advice nd oppinon.
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reader, petit +, writes (18 December 2010):
Well, I think that some of your readers were much like I was at a younger age! It was wonderful and thrilling and an excitement that made me jump on beds making me feel that I had found true love! This is a great feeling and everyone deserves to feel this excitement and love because it is youthful, and happy, and very uncomplicated. These are definitely all the wonderful things that lead us to the alter. Not for a moment would I pass up what I experienced, however sometimes a union can change and leave you confused. The person that you loved so very much has changed, or perhaps not, and at this point children and income are involved. Love is very special and it is without a doubt one of the most special feelings that you will ever encounter but it can also be so painful when things don't work out. I really think that the more you love someone the more painful it is because it is so very hard to let go and realize that things are over. still, do not give up on love or cheat yourself because from all feelings you will grow.
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reader, truthisall +, writes (24 August 2010):
Poets,Musicians,Writers,Artists,"Wise Men",Oprah,Supermarket Tabloids have all polluted our minds over the centuries & in fact TV is the worst culprit.LOVE is not infatuation, LOVE is not obsession,LOVE is not longing for someone so much it hurts..WHY NOT ? Because all of the above involves GETTING !...Love is GIVING, free from the expectation of GETTING.LOVE is not some big mysterious thing....that's ATTRACTION.LOVE is simply put "WANTING ANOTHERS HAPPINESS REGARDLESS OF HOW YOU DO OR DON"T FIT INTO THE EQUATION.IF IT DOESN"T LIVE UP TO THAT HIGH STANDARD...then Sorry,it's not LOVE...Hard ? The Hardest ! But then thats why REAL LOVE is so RARE.When two people feel that way about one another, they never split up,cheat on each other,get a Divorce etc...They LOVE each other, stop thinking about your wants & concentrate on their need's..IF they feel the same,they'll put your needs ahead of their wants...IF NOT...THEY DON"T LOVE YOU,THEY LOVE THEMSELVES & YOU MUST BLESS IT..LET IT GO & MOVE ON.BUT NEVER NEVER NEVER GIVE UP ON FINDING LOVE FOR 1 MINUTE OF LOVE OUTWEIGHS ALL OF LIFES HURTS & DISSAPOINTMENTS. PEACE & GOOD LUCK ON YOUR JOURNEY ! SEEK & YOU WILL FIND BUT DON"T EXPECT IT'LL BE EASY.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2010): When You have not slept because you cant stop thinking about that person.when you can relate to almost every love song you hear.when your heart starts to feel like it will explode every time you see them.when you cry for that person for over 3 hours non-stop.when you cant put how you feel for that person in words let alone thoughts.that is
what happens to me. and i still am to shy to tell him how
i feel.i wrote him 2 notes but he never responded.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2010): You can tell if you love someone by... whenever your around that person you cant stop smiling. Even if that person makes you mad, you cant stay mad. All you do is smile. You have butterflies, your heart races up until the moment you see him. You cant stop thinking about that person. You sit in class and just wonder what theyre doing and if they are thinking about you too. And that person you "love", you just think they are perfect.
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reader, bella1210  +, writes (29 May 2010):
you can tell if you love someone if when your around them your always happy and if you never think about ever loving anyone else. You can tell if you love someone mainly by the way you feel around them!
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reader, danny4real  +, writes (19 October 2009):
For me, I know when I'm willing to stand behind them on any decision they make, no matter what. I know when they look me in the eyes, and tell me that they believe in me. I know when I'm in love when they walk into the room, and I fall for them all over again, like we've never even met. It blows your socks off, and all you can think about is getting to see them again, even if it's for a second. It's like an addicting drug. You know when everytime you go away, you look over at your pillow, and you feel empty without them. It's their scent, the warm feeling when they sneak up and hug you from behind, and you feel like for that instant, everything is ok with the world. Today, for me, it was knowing that my partner needed to be able to flirt and date without being tied down. It was telling her that you loved her more than anything in the world, and that all you care about is their happiness. Sometimes you know when you love them so much that you let them go, and sacrifice your feelings so that they can be happy. There's so many little and big things that let you know. You'll understand when you find that person.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2009): For me, being in love isn't something that can be described in words. Its this feeling you get when you wake up in the morning and all you can think about is you getting to see that one special person, and when you see them its like the whole world just disappears!love makes you draw those silly hearts on your papers, and hands. And everytime their not around you feel empty even though you just saw them a second ago, when they hold your hand you feel completely safe, and when you kiss its like everything is perfect. That's what I think love is :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2008): When you can not imagine yourself living without them.When you have not seen or talked to them in ages, and they walk in the room and time has not passed.When your heart beats violently everytime you see them.When you will do anything for the person, even if it could hurt you.When you think about them constantly and uncontrollably.When everything reminds you of them.When you have moved on with someone else, but your loved one is still on your mind daily. When the little things they do excite you, like smile or sleep.When you can not sleep because you want to look at how beautiful they are to you.When all you do is dream about being with the person.This is what I think is true love.Amanda
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2007): You have to ask yourself various questions:
1) Would you do anything for them?
2) Do you miss them even when they are only in the next room?
3) Does the thought of them being with someone else make you feel like your dying inside?
4) Do you feel as though you cannot live without them?
5) Do they make you laugh, smile and enjoy life?
6) When ever you see them, do you feel like you are walking on air?
If you said yes to them all, your probably in love, but that's just my guess. i answered all these with a yes and it was love, but even if it is, don't push it coz you will just push them away, just like i did.
If it's love, hold onto it for as long as you can.
Love is a gift, and is something that should be treasured.
Good luck.
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reader, DV1 +, writes (24 May 2007):
 For me, I know when I'm willing to stand behind them on any decision they make, no matter what. I know when they look me in the eyes, and tell me that they believe in me. I know when I'm in love when they walk into the room, and I fall for them all over again, like we've never even met. It blows your socks off, and all you can think about is getting to see them again, even if it's for a second. It's like an addicting drug. You know when everytime you go away, you look over at your pillow, and you feel empty without them. It's their scent, the warm feeling when they sneak up and hug you from behind, and you feel like for that instant, everything is ok with the world. Today, for me, it was knowing that my partner needed to be able to flirt and date without being tied down. It was telling her that you loved her more than anything in the world, and that all you care about is their happiness. Sometimes you know when you love them so much that you let them go, and sacrifice your feelings so that they can be happy. There's so many little and big things that let you know. You'll understand when you find that person.
DV1
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reader, AskEve +, writes (24 May 2007):
 You're a bit young to be falling in love but here is my explanation of real love anyway. You may not understand it fully but you will see what I mean as you get older.
To love a person, first and foremost you must KNOW them personally. Lots of teenagers say they "love" a celebrity or are "in love" with them but of course this can't be, they love the idea of who they are but if they've never met them then it's just a crush or infatuation.
Real love on the other hand is very different. If you truly love someone then you respect them for who they are, warts and all. You want to look after them and protect them, you look out for them and put them first. You feel happy and content in their company and enjoy being together. Above all you can be yourself when you're with them. You never try to be anything more or someone different because you don't need to. You don't have to impress them to win them over and you never have to play games to make them like you. There is trust and understanding on both sides and you feel safe and secure within yourself. You would never undermine them, they are not someone in whose company you feel threatened or small. They are someone with whom you can share your innermost thoughts and worries, a person with whom you should be able to share anything, they are your friend and your confidante and you can be honest with them at all times, you can tell them anything because they love you as you are.
He/she may be someone who is the direct opposite of you. On the surface you may seem like chalk and cheese. Whilst you may be loud and forceful they may be quiet and thoughtful. You may come from different backgrounds, different countries or be twenty years apart but this doesn't matter. There is an unspoken language between you, the spiritual connection between you both is so deep that you seem to be able to communicate without even speaking to each other. You are happy to lie in silence together. You feel sometimes that there is no need to talk because you feel that you know what they are thinking anyway. You feel so close to them that sometimes you think you could almost read their mind. You know when they are worried, in pain, or sad just by looking at them. It is as though there exists some kind of telepathy between you.
Real love stands the test of time, you laugh together, cry together and even have your differences but this doesn't matter, you love that person AND their failings. You come together in a crisis and work through things together and this just brings you closer. You take their feelings into consideration in all that you do. They are the most important person in your life!
Eve
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