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writes:Hey everyone I am a 24 year old female and my bf is 39. We sometimes engage in mutual masturbation and when we do this, we view videos of women stripping on webcam. I find this very erotic and so does he. When he is watching the woman strip I give him oral sex and this makes him climax quite quickly. Same goes for me. Although we do not do this often, I notice that when we watch the women stripping he gets very aroused, very quickly and also climaxes very intensely. Do you think this is bad? Am I damaging the relationship in anyway and also is this something that makes me a doormat?Just your opinions please, both guys and girls. :-) thanks in advance.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2010): First off, there is a huge age difference here which makes me feel uncomfortable - how long have you guys been together? You are in your prime sweetie and he is heading for the right side of 40 - that is a generational age gap. If you've been together for years and this is perhaps a way of spicing up your sex life, then OK if you both don't mind. Personally, I think you are heading down a dark road - if you've only been together a short while, where do you go from here?? What else might get introduced? Does his pecker get just as excited when it's just you and no web cam involved? If not, I'd knock it on the head - a well known side affect of too much porn watching is a decreased libido. And what about the cost of all this?? I've done something similar with my bf before, but he stopped interacting with me and became more involved with what was going on on the screen. Once that happened, it was over. I told him to turn the movie off, and we've never watched it again. He now has absolutely no opportunity to watch porn and I've seen our sex life improve and his pecker stays hard, without the added need of a third party stimulus. I've done lots of research to understand both my motives and his, and I've come to the conclusion that porn is extremely harmful. If you don't buy that idea, then have some compassion for the women that have to sell their arses on screen to make a living. Your man is essentially banging one out to some drug ridden, overly enhanced slapper!! Mmmm, sure sounds tasteful to me!!!!! Also, don't listen to guys giving advice about porn; when it comes to porn they think with their penis and not their brain, so the chances are you will not get an objective view.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2010): Dear Lady, you are every guy's dream girl. Keep it up. No worries. Your guy is lucky to have you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2010): Thanks for the response TimmD, No he never gives any impression about wanting to have a threesome, knows I am against it and its not really his thing. He doesn't look at women too much, just casual glances if he sees a hot woman which I am okay with. He is very respectful and loyal and loves me very much so I am not worried about it too much just wondering if I was opening up a can of worms..?
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reader, TimmD  +, writes (5 May 2010):
 If you guys have a good relationship outside of the bedroom, then there's nothing wrong with you two sharing a mutual interest when getting yourself off. He may get turned on simply by looking at those girls, but he might also be turned on because YOU are there with him turned on yourself.
You shouldn't really worry unless he starts to show other signs of thinking about other women or wanting to bring another girl into the bedroom with you. That's when this fun little turn-on between you two starts heading in the wrong direction...
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reader, dirtball +, writes (5 May 2010):
 Well, I'd lean toward harmless. The combination of stimuli is probably what is making things so intense. As long as he doesn't treat you like a doormat, then I don't see a problem.
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