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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2009): When i was younger i would have crawled there over broken glass just to be in her shadow and maybe gargle her bathwater. But the atlantic well ..unfortunatelly i cant swim very good.
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reader, PixieGwen  +, writes (19 October 2009):
PixieGwen is verified as being by the original poster of the question haha village people..
awesome.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2009): Q..I bet he says he's washing his hair. And i bet he's listening to his village people's greatest hits cd. If only i were a few years younger and not the other side of the world be there like a shot.
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reader, PixieGwen +, writes (19 October 2009):
PixieGwen is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyeah i hear ya, er i believe u .. im sure thats true..
i just wish guys wouldnt bs what they want - be straight forward.i dont bs.
anyhoo - thanks for the replies. :)
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reader, PixieGwen +, writes (19 October 2009):
PixieGwen is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyeah im not sure whats up w/ him.. - i figure its a cop out..
its ok it didnt have a happy ending - his "uncomfortable" excuse is lame lol
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2009): Sorry it didnt have a happy ending. But at least you know where you stand now. His loss. Maybe he's one of them homo sapiens or something.
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reader, PixieGwen +, writes (19 October 2009):
PixieGwen is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni actually got a reply from him. he said that he thought i wanted more..and he was uncomfortable. I told him i didnt want more..- and he said" whether or not u wanted more.. i was uncomfortable" I told him he made himself uncomfortable - I never acted like i wanted more..nor did i touch him or endlessly flirt - he's tripping.. i honestly think its a cop out.. so yeah im gonna leave him alone.lol :) thanks for the replies/opinions.
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reader, 123skyscraper  +, writes (18 October 2009):
i would just stay away from him and let him be. if a guy wants you he will pursue you. if he senses you are in the friend zone and he "will likely want more", then he will just back off and go away on his own. that's how guys are.i used to have lots of guy friends, but not so much anymore. yes all the guy friends i had all asked me out but i didnt date them. some went away some stayed and keep trying. most guys are friends with girls only to pursue them. example, this guy i used to hang out with, he had strong feelings for me, i didnt; so whoever i dated he didnt agree because he wanted me for himself. i just backed off and let him be, as i saw clearly he was just burning himself watching me talk about other guys.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2009): So he is under the impression that you are only interested in friendship and maybe he changed his mind.Which is fair enough.So untill you tell him differently he's not going to know is he. So if i were you i would communicate with him.
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reader, PixieGwen +, writes (18 October 2009):
PixieGwen is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni guess i shouldve clarified. i met him online. he saw pics of me and said he didnt like my style but was down to hang as friends - see a movie.we agreed- it was fine w/ me. i had no expectations..thats why i thought it was weird when he dropped out.i wouldve dated him, had he been interested. but when its just friends/hanging out - i know the line & never push it - we talked bout everything else cept our dating experiences etc..so i didnt bore him w/ that crap lol.i was just enjoying it for what it is & he seemed to be too..or atleast thats what i thought.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2009): Oh its great when a single girl just wants to be friends. You get to heare all her problems but no sex and eventually they meet someone else then talk about them all the time. Do you get my drift ? We dont like to tell women we fancy them unless we think we are in with some chance. He aint trippin hun. He's probly been in the situation before and wants to avoid it in future.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2009): Nobody meets up at a bar and have drinks to become movie buddies... they do it as a precursor to dating or getting involved with one another. If you are looking for a movie buddy you need to make this absolutely clear from the beginning, and stay away from bars, drinking and flirting.
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reader, Heartbroken in love +, writes (18 October 2009):
I agree with first 2 answers. no guy enjoys being put in the friend zone. its unfair to expect a guy to just be happy being friends when he might have been interested in more. I can understand if maybe u genuinly just wanted to take ur time before maybe exploring ur own interest in him. let's be honest though, for a lot of guys that scenario never transpires and his being patient doesn't pay off. and then he gets to watch you go off with a more flashy, less patient, and more aggressive guy. this leaves a man feeling cheated. my advice? if u like this guy as anymore than a friend, pursue him as such. don't lalegag. as the first two answers say. most men hang around a girl for a reason. unless they are gay that reason is usually romantic
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2009): He wanted to date not just hang out.
no big deal though is it?
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reader, birdynumnums +, writes (18 October 2009):
 I think it wasn't hanging out, it WAS dating to him, and he told you that it wasn't working for him. In other words - he never saw you as a friend, he thought he was interested, now he's not, and he doesn't want to hang out. Most guys don't hang around with girls for no reason, unless they have been friends with them a long time.
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