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writes:My girlfriend broke up with me a few days before our 1 year anniv. She had been seeming more and more distant lately and was maybe having sex with me once a month and never initiated it. Finally the last month she was always cranky and wouldnt say much except a few words here and there. I talked to her and she said she couldn't stand me not listening. She said that she's given me chances but i blew it. What my problem is, is that i do listen but my memory isn't the best. She knows that and i've been trying different ways to keep up with certain things like when she would have work and when she was going home to her parents'. I know 100% she never cheated. We never really fought except when she would get off work. After twenty minutes of saying nothing to me except quick responses to "was everything okay today, how was work... etc" I would ask her why she was always so crabby to me because i wasnt the reason for her being upset. It would never be a big fight. She still says that she was the only one trying and i never did. I need some outside perspective on this. I treated her respectfully always, never even eyeing another woman when she wasn't around. Am i crazy for thinking she has other reasons for breaking it off with me? Or is it totally possible that my not listening then maybe has affected what I don't know now caused the break up? (confusing)
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2009): some people are just miserable no matter what. maybe she has issues of her own she needs to deal with. she would need to make herself happy before she can make anyone else happy
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reader, Kirstyteenauntireland  +, writes (12 September 2009):
 No your not Crazy for thinking she had other reasons for breaking up with you. Most people Think after breaking up with someone there was other reasons than the one they gave to them.You say you " never really fought except when she would get off work " Perhaps she was really stressed from work. Stress Often leads to Crabbyness which would point to the arguing.But mainly most people do tend to think that their ex boy/girlfriends have other reasons for breaking up with them so mabye you should ask her. I know it will be hard but it will put your mind at ease so that you will be able to move on with your lifeGood Luckxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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