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*occergirl4life
writes:hey this may sound crazy but i could really use ur help!!!!!!! a couple of years ago i was friends with this guy and then he told me he hated me and wished i was dead!!!!! now even more things have happened between us. Last night i ran into him and i felt like yelling at him cause all he put me through. Well he hugged me and it scared me. Am I crazy for forgiving him for everything he did????? Can we still be friends????????????? Reply to this Question
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reader, soccergirl4life +, writes (3 November 2008):
soccergirl4life is verified as being by the original poster of the question hey thanks that really helped i was affraid cause he is still friends wiht my friends so next year we would all be together again he is willing to sit down and talk about what happened i think he said what he said cause someone who used to be my friend told him i said the same thing so he was just retalliating im not giving him exscuses but i am so happy we r friends agian he called me lastnigh so thanks for all the help
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reader, Reebe  +, writes (31 October 2008):
 You have both grown up a bit since back then, if it was me I would probably forgive him, as in the end your only hurting and annoying yourself.
Although I probably wouldn't be friends with him, unless you feel you can sit down and talk to him and resolve some of things that have happened between you.
Some things are best laid to rest.
Good Luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2008): No you're not crazy for forgiving him maybe a little uncertain Forgiveness is an aspect of Love which is scary as it goes against every instinct to protect ourself or retaliate and hit back, whether you can still be friends depends on how the relationship heals take it slow and see how you get on
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reader, shiraz +, writes (31 October 2008):
hiyah err i dont think hes really mate material do you? he wished you were dead!? thats a bit strong even for someone you hate, im not perfect yeah but i never say things like that cuz i just dont wish it on anyone! its such a cruel way of being and once it said its always there and therec certain things you cannot go back on.if he put you through so much why would you want it back into your life? be the bigger person and let this one go. nobody deserves that thrown at them whatevers happened.i dont think you can be friends and i know i wouldnt but its up to you to take that risk. learn from whats happened and stop it entering your life a second time round.depending on the situation as i can only judge from what youve said wheteher you should forgive him or not is completely up to you given the circumstances but make sure hes aware he was wel out of line.or stop it happening altogether and move on from this guy that treated you bad. best of luck x
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reader, coldmist182 +, writes (31 October 2008):
 well yes and no its up to you really if you think he is genuinly sorry for what he has done forgive him and maybe suggest talking about it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2008): Your not crazy for forgiving him your a good person, forgive but don't forget.
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