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writes:Hi Readers.I’m looking for other peoples views on flirting... I’m in a situation at the minute where I’m falling for a friend of mine (yea I know – difficult situation!)Thing is I think the feeling may be mutual...So I’ll give you some examples of what I felt to be flirting between us:1.) Constant stares... I’ve often caught them staring directly at me.2.) The smiles... When I catch them looking at me, it’s sometimes followed by smile and a shy look on their face.3.) Hugs... Always the hugs. Whenever we meet up, it begins and ends with a hug.4.) Hand holding... Usually only happens when we have had some alcohal.5.) Conversations... We “click” on so many levels... We could talk all day about everything, so there is a genuine trust there.6.) Texts... Can be flirty, with alot of emoticons (smiley faces) used throughout. Sometimes things can be said that have a double meaning, which leaves me analysing a little over what they ACTUALLY meant.7.) Phonecalls... Usually answered with a very chirpy, pleasant, friendly “helloooooo” contain alot of laughing between us. Any excuse to talk and prolong the conversation.Can anyone please give me some opinions on what I’ve just written.... Am I reading into things WAY too much, or is it possible that I may be correct in what I’m thinking. Also if anyone could offer me some tips or hints as to what to look out for?I would tell this person, if we weren’t such good friends, so I guess I’m trying to play it safe until I have some sort of guarantee that I’m not imagining things...Any help readers??Thank you so much for readingxxx
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reader, andre23  +, writes (13 July 2010):
First of all this all depends on the kind of relationship you have with this person, if you know him from work or something like that it does not mean flirting. The only way you can find out for sure, based on my experiences, is if he constantly wants to meet you and talk to you all the time it means he likes you more than a friend. So I'm suggesting for you to pick a day and party with him as usual and then when you both have drunk enough alcohol, try to flirt with him. If he flirts back that means he does like you like that. Also this works best if you're sat down, and talking to the person face to face. If the flirt goes well enough he might even kiss you. You have to be comfortable enough to constantly touch him (hold hands or something) and smile at him while looking in his eyes and getting closer. (Worked for me every time, LOL)
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reader, xnickx +, writes (12 July 2010):
 I'll give you my opinion as well as a warning on each, just for future knowledge. It does seem like he's flirting with you :)
1) could be a big sign of flirting but also could just be him trying to make up his mind if he wants the friendship to be something else. If it happens frequently, probably flirting.
2) more likely flirting, but could be just because he got caught. If he thinks you think he was flirting with you when he wasnt, it could be embarrassment. But again, if it happens more than once or twice id count it as flirting.
3) Not necissarily flirting. My standard greeting/goodbye for any girl atleast on the friend level is a hug, i think many other guys would agree.
4) Usually flirting but not always, depending on the guy. Since he seems shy, i'd call it flirting.
5) Just because you notice a click, doesnt mean he does. I wouldnt rely on this, but if other signs are pointing the right direction (which i think they are) this supplements nicely.
6) Dont over analyze texts, dont even analyze texts, take them at face value. Texts/emoticons can be so vague, that it often invites you to analyze it, when he could have in fact meant exactly what he said. Dont rely on texting. Too much confusion can result from them. You should be able to tell from your other signs.
7) Phonecalls are going to have to be your own personal judgement. Yes they can be tell tale signs, but like texting, too much can be assumed on what something meant when you can't see his actual reaction.
Basically, the less you rely on "guessing" and things he says, and the more you rely on "observing" and time spent with him, the better a grasp you'll be able to get if he's flirting or not.
Hope i was of some help
Nick.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (12 July 2010):
 Sounds like flirting to me. He also sounds shy, so he may not be able to take that step of telling you how he feels. It may be best to talk about it one night. Maybe during a conversation when you are together, tell him that you're noticing that there may be something between the two of you, and you were wondering if he felt the same way. Try to be low pressure, but let him know you're open to maybe trying things if you both feel it's right. Good luck, I hope things work out for you both.
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