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writes:I just don't know whether it is right or wrong to be in the situation which I am in right now. I am in a very fulfilling relationship with an amazing person. He loves me so much and ofcourse I love him back so much. And I am looking forward to spending the rest of my life with him. But lately I have been getting this feeling that I am cheating him. My problem is that I still get attracted to others inspite of having a stable relationship with him. I feel extremley for doing so even if it is just in my thoughts.. Am i cheating him..? Reply to this Question
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reader, MsSadie  +, writes (10 August 2013):
 No, you're fine.
There are tons of hot people out there. The only way to stop noticing them is through altering the production of your hormones or castration. I don't recommend either. Physical attraction to others, even when contentedly involved with another, is perfectly normal.
You like your guy, and you're happy with him. Your relationship is stable, and you've spoken of no inclination to compromise it. So, don't worry about it.
Unless you start feeling resentful towards your man AND are fantasizing about relationships or sex elsewhere, you have nothing to feel guilty about.
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reader, StephJayne  +, writes (9 August 2013):
 What you are going through is normal. I'm pretty sure most people will say that.
Whilst I was in a relationship I'd look at a guy and think "Oh my word, he is gorgeous" or something along those lines. It's just normal.
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reader, kenny +, writes (9 August 2013):
 No you are not cheating on him, not in anyway atal. We all have thoughts, but thats it, its just in your thoughts, you are not taking action with other people so just keep it to yourself. Unless we go out with blinkers on its very hard not to notice other people, or even for others to stir up different kinds of emotions within us, this is always going to happen, after all we are only human after all. You love your boyfriend and are looking forward to spending the rest of your life with him. Next time you get these these thoughts just ignor them and remind yourself how much you love your boyfriend.
Good luck
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (9 August 2013):
 Being attracted to other people is normal and is not cheating.
You are partnered not dead.
Do you lead other people on? try to get them to want to be with you? I'm not talking about casual flirting, I do that but I make it clear I'm not cheating on my partner as he knows I'm an outrageous flirt.
Finding someone else attractive is not the issue. Acting on it is a problem... and if you are consistently looking for others or planning to be with them or trying to figure out how to cheat... then that's a problem.
But finding the occasional other person attractive is not an issue and is not cheating IMO.
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