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writes:Hello :) I know this doesn't generally relate to relationships but it is having a knock-on effect on mine and I would like to deal with it sooner rather than later. I think that I might have anxiety, or become prone to anxiety attacks lately (or the online explanations of the condition would seem to match up with my symptoms). I am not a person who has ever dealt with much confrontation and I like to keep on the good side of everyone, which I know isnt realistic but its who I am. Anyways a couple of months ago some of my (so called) friends took a sudden rampage against me, as girls tend to, and they found any reason they could to find things against me but I think it all stems from not liking my new partner. Anyways as childish as it seems, it really is not something I have had to desk with before and was traumatic at the time because I felt I was losing people and had no control over it, I think there and then I had a panic attack In the upset... But these friends don't really keep in contact with me me at all now, so i feel I've lost people. Immediately since it happened ive spent a lot of my time on edge, expecting the next bad thing to come along, or just worrying and considering every possible bad outcome that could happen from any situation. I wake up in the morning with a feeling of dread and anxiousness and try and think of all the bad things i could about my life.... A lot of the time they arent even there and its just my mind looking for problems to give reason to how i feel. Just on my own i could deal with it, but more recently it had been showing when i am at social events, so much so i have to go to the toilets and i just break down. I hate it so much because it is making me feel like i need my family and boyfriend as a way of dropping the feeling, which isnt fair and i don't wanna be too needy, espcially to my boyfriend. It angers me because its all mental, it constantly makes me question everything in my relationship even though he has done nothing wrong, but i am just expecting it to. I really just want this feeling to go away because its not me at all and i wanna be my old self again, i used to be so much more laid back and care free, i want that back. What do i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2013): Thanks for coming to my column. Yes, i have been there but i am now happily married and i feel with my experiences in life, love and marriage i can help others. I am also a manager in an engineering firm so i can possibly help with some career advice. I am a much softer person in real life so my friends say, but i cant help but tell you the truth because my wish is to help you make the best decision.
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reader, person12345  +, writes (9 August 2013):
 There is no quick way to fix this kind of anxiety. The only way to really overcome chronic anxiety is to see a professional who will likely do some form of cognitive behavioral therapy with the possible addition of an SSRI medication. Doing those two things can be really successful in treating anxiety.
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