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writes: Iv been with my current bf for almost five years. At The beginning of the week he left a table in my car and I culdnt see out of my back window on the interstate so wen I got home I told him to take it out n take it home well then it got blown out of proportion. I later apologized and the next day I started my period so that could explain my moodiness. Now hes saying I dont love him like I used to and I havent put my whole self into the relationship since he cheated on me 2years ago. He cant tell me whether he wants to stay together or break up but I told him if we break up this time that im not going to get back together with him. I told him he has until tonight to give me answer, am I being to harsh? And if we do break up how do I move on with my life since hes also been my best friend?
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reader, FloridaCatGirl +, writes (20 November 2010):
 You have already apologized for something that really doesn’t seem like a big deal. Nobody’s perfect… and you were probably hormonal. As long as you made it very clear that you feel terrible about starting an argument over a table… then he should be able to accept your apology and drop it. If his concern is that you haven’t treated him well since he cheated, you should tell him you will work it.
Have you been able to fully forgive him for cheating on you… or do you bring this up often? Obviously, you had ever right to feel hurt and betrayed… and those feelings take a lot of time to dissipate. If you haven’t forgiven him yet… you need to talk about it and discuss how it makes you feel.
Your boyfriend sounds confused and may be using this last argument as an excuse to break up. I hope you two are able to work through this difficult time. If he does decide to part ways, you will inevitably experience heartache. But I can assure you, time will heal the pain and you will find another love. Good luck!
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reader, Coolguy  +, writes (19 November 2010):
Hello,
I think that by giving him a deadline you are putting too much pressure on him. Harsh is too strong. I would say pressured. Most men under such pressure will say they want to break up. I think its ok to ask him the question as to where the relationship is heading but not to press on him. If he says he wants to break up, you can tell him that you are sorry for being so touchy. Tell him it was your period and try to patch things up. let him know that you trust him and believe that he has changed. However, you should not make the relationship pressured by asking him to make decisions with deadlines.
Cheers,
CG
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