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writes:Mm, I'll just start by saying that my penis is only 4 inches long (length) and 4 inches around (girth) at the hardest point of my erections. So yes, my penis is well under the 6 inch average length and I don't know what's the average girth but I can certainly tell that mine is really thin.Girls that I've known have told me either; A) My penis is too small to satisfy any girl, and that I should give up any hope of dating/sex because of that.B) The only thing that matters is if she loves me and she'll be satisfied if a guy simply gave all his effort and did the best he could with what he has. What does everyone here think?To girls, do you think that someone is more attractive, more of a man, and would satisfy you more if he has a bigger penis? Do you think that you'd be very disappointed, offended, or even leave a boyfriend if you saw he had a small penis? Or would you be happy with whatever he has? What would you say to a guy who wasn't well endowed to make him feel better, but at the same time being honest?To guys, if you have a big penis, would you feel like you can do better sexually than those who aren't as fortunate, solely because of that? If you have a small penis, what have you experienced? Good or bad experiences?I've found myself confidently confused about this, and I really don't know what to think. As much as you probably wouldn't believe considering people have talked to me about this, I'm still a virgin.Because a lot of my friends and not-so-friendly people have joked or been serious about this, I don't know how I'm going to do the first time I'm up to bat.I sorta feel bad because I have some sort of expectations for that first time and I've worried myself if it won't be how I expected, or if it'll be a horrible experience that will hurt me emotionally because maybe the girl will make fun of me or just leave on the spot because of my size. (or lack of, in this case)I'm not looking for pity or reassurance or whatever. Don't answer this with a candy-coated response as if you're trying to make someone better, answer as if you're as honest as you can be. ._.;I don't care if you have an opposing opinion, I'd just appreciate it if you would maybe give me any solutions to my dilemma instead of just saying something like "small penises are gross lol."Blah, I'm stupid, I'm asking the internet about this. What's wrong with me. probably tl;dr too. .;;
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reader, Jessypj  +, writes (21 December 2010):
It's not the size, its what you can do with what you've got
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2010): psssh dont over anylze it man! size for me and lotsa other girls doesnt matter. so yes you are being a baby lol! (: 4 inches is better then two ya know? think of that! ther are some guys out there with a 2 inch penis...count your blessing :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2010): I wouldn't put too much emphasis on the size for it's not always what you have, but how you use it! Relax man, you are worrying about the wrong thing!
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reader, annakat +, writes (21 December 2010):
 First off I just want to say size doesn't really matter. The only difference with size is that a guy who is small, but good in bed, will feel good; whereas a guy who is big, but has little or no skill, will feel good anyways. I'm not being nice, I'm not sugar-coating life, this is actually what I've found to be true.
To answer your individual questions...
I don't think a guy is any more attractive just because he has a big penis. I judge a guy based on his body, hair style, smile, things like that. I don't think it makes them any more of a man either (but that's all just my personal opinion).
If you're a good guy and I care about you I wouldn't care about how big your penis is, but I do know some friends who have left guys because of their lack of size.
All I can tell you is that it really doesn't matter. But if you are with a shallow girl I can understand why you might be concerned.
If I could share some personal experience with you, I was with a guy who constantly bragged about how big he was and how amazing he was in bed. But once he got his pants off I found out that he was small, probably about 3 inches hard (when he wasn't hard all I could pretty much see of it was the head). In complete honesty that was the best sex up until that point in my life (as of now he's still in my top 3 and I've been with 5 other guys who have been 6 inches or more). He really was just that good in bed. I was with another guy who was 6 inches and he was terrible. It's skill that matters, not size. The best sex I've ever had was with a guy who was 6 inches (and I've been with guys who were up to 8) just because he had good skill and I enjoyed being with him. If you care about the girl you're with and you're into it, she will be too. The best advice I can give you is that as long as you relax and the sex is something you want you're going to be fine.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2010): I really think it depends on the girl. I don't think your size is ever going to be an asset in anyone's book but the degree of drawback will vary depending on the person. Some girls love 8" dicks but others get hurt with anything more than 5-6 inches.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2010): As an honest answer to your question; yes some girls may be put off by it. But there are plenty of girls who are sensible enough to realise it isnt all about the size of your penis - even during sex. I wouldn't be disappointed, offended or leave a man because of this!.There is no way you should give up dating or sex, that is a ridiculous comment for a girl to make.I find with my partner, its more about what we learn each other like. His penis is about 5.5 inches - but he was rubbish in bed! He didnt really do anything for me at all.As we got to know what each other liked, its got better and better. The size of his penis wasnt an issue - but what he was doing.I honestly don't think you will have a problem, I'm sure you will find there are plenty of men who enjoy a great sex life with a penis your size, as isnt really an issue. I'm sure you'll satisfy the woman you choose to give your virginity too. Hope this helps :)
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