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writes: Am I being unreasonable? My fiance went on vacation by himself for two months in Florida without me and flew me down to see him twice so far because he extended his vacation from one month to two months. I am supposed to go down a third time on my spring break, which was orignially the only trip planned, but yesterday I told him I was going to visit my friends in California instead because it will probably be the only time I have to see them before we get married and I promised them I would. He got mad, and said he made reservations for us to go somewhere special but said I could do what I wanted. I said he goes out with his friends and does what he wants to do, so I should be able to as well. He got really made because I brought up that he left for 2 months again, which he know makes me upset. He said I keep talking about him and his vacation that I don't agree with and he is sick of me talking about it. Somehow I can't stop, because everyone (guys and girls, his friends and mine) tell me they think it's weird that he left after we just got engaged. I trust him, he just says I ruin his night every time he goes out to bars because I just don't understand why someone would go drink by themselves. Am I being completely stupid, or is he being inconsiderate? How can I stop ruining all of his night-outs?
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reader, moomoomoo  +, writes (13 March 2007):
 a little bit of both. i could see him getting mad when you said "so i should be able to as well" because this is different because he actually made reservations before hand. how would you feel if you put a lot of effort in planning a surprise party only to find out that your friend just went out of time to spend it? very disappointed.. so that would have ticked me off. however, the leaving for that long is very inconsiderate of him.. and telling you you ruin his night... try to talk to him and solve this problem. remember, guys and girls think differently.. so some things may not make sense
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reader, young mummy  +, writes (13 March 2007):
he needs to go,listen to your freinds. how dare he go away, and not take you? and why hav u let him get away with it! i would want answers.Dont blame ur self for 'ruinin' his nights out, good, cus its really sad, thatyour not with him any way,where is the love?! i think hes up to something, and u shud find out answers and demand them, or get rid of him, and hit the road jack!
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