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anonymous
writes:I really like girls, women, a lot. Lots of them smile at me or look at me when I'm out in public - but I can't look at them.For instance, when I notice a beautiful girl on the train, I will desperately try to keep myself from looking at her - looking everywhere else just not at her. If I looked at her she might see me looking, and think I was flirting with her!!! I feel like I'd be some kind of sexist caveman if I looked at a beautiful girl. Trouble is, most girls are beautiful, in different ways.I feel that I love beautiful faces, and if I didn't stop myself I would look for a long time.Also I have noticed that when I talk with girls I don't know, my gaze wanders away, and I find myself not looking at them much. When I spend much time with a girl, one-on-one, like working on a project together or going out to lunch, it feels like serious flirting or even an "emotional affair".I'm a friendly, outgoing person, I've got a girlfriend, had others in the past. I just can't work out whether my reaction to girls is appropriate politeness or ... twitchy. I'd like to think that I'm overreacting, but I've read lots of girls on this site saying that guys are dogs to look at other girls, that it's evil, that there's nothing safe about it. So I'm confused!
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reader, flower girl  +, writes (2 July 2007):
 Pay no attention to most remarks that you read, because you would probably find that the people that make those sort have comments have been cheated on so just feel bitter.
There is nothing wrong with looking at other women even when you are in a relationship, infact i would say it's perfectly natural so don't worry.
As long as you do not take it any further than looking while your in a relationship i personally can't see them harm in it.
Take care.xx.
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reader, Playgroundcops  +, writes (2 July 2007):
I'm married to an absolyte knock out of a woman. Half Peurto Rican half Mexican. I began the relationship 7 years ago by being completely honest.
I look at other women. Even if she's with me. She looks too. I've caught her. By the same token, if I see a guy that I think she would like to look at, I'll point him out or comment. I don't hide anything and I don't cheat.
Too many relationships begin with PROPER behavior. Screw that. Be yourself. Let the other person know what they're getting into. You'll be happier in the long run.
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reader, m0h8787878 +, writes (2 July 2007):
just relax, you are exaggerating and overreacting. beautiful girls like it when a very good looking guy looks at them, well at least i enjoy it! i find it flattering but it is a bit of a flirtation. don't be so concern about it!
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