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writes:Hi, I have started seeing this guy only recently (2 mths) but feel that I am falling for him. We have recently had a couple of conversations which have gone along the lines of him telling me that he thinks I am into the relationship much more seriously than he is (which would probably be right) the thing is, I feel confused about it all. Does he like me enough that he is maybe just scared of telling me that he does see this as a serious relationship or do you think he is trying to let me down gently? He is always very good with me and trys to cheer me up as he can see I'm down about it when we have spoken about it. I'm really struggling to just relax about it all. Any advice from another male would be good. Am I being too serious too soon? Will he leave me if this continues? How do I know how he strongly he feels for me? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2009): From what I read, you do come across a little desperate. It's only been two months, why do you need validity of the relationship this early? He has already picked up the fact of how "seriously" you are taking this relationship. So you can push him away if you keep up this behavior.
At this point, are you sure that you are falling in love with him or is this infatuation? It hadn't been that long and I really don't think that you are already in love with this man. This is the "honeymoon" stage. So everything is beautiful, birds chirping, and music is in the air. So I would tread lightly until I know what my true feelings are
IF and WHEN he is ready to start a serious and committed relationship, he will let you know. You should very well know that if a man wants you, you know what the end result will be. If he is still in the picture, after some reasonable amount time passes, then and only then will I question the relationship.
As far as right now, just enjoy having fun with him. Enjoy your life. Best of luck
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reader, happyhippo85  +, writes (26 October 2009):
 For starters, what do you know of him?
Is he into real dating? ie. the "serious" stuff?
If not, you got your answer.
If yes, perhaps you are a tad bit too eager. How has the past 2 months been?
What do you two normally do?
Cheer up and be a happy hippo :)
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