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41-50,
*lanket
writes:I need advice and someone to tell me the truth. I thought I had an honest boyfriend despite the fact that he has a huge ego and works as a MD. We hit it off well then everything started to go down hill. We use to send each other sexy pics of each other and seductive text messages. I later found out that my ex boyfriend is best friends with my Gyno doctor.(weird...right). I was wondering why my ex pursued me out of all ppl at the hospital (not saying I'm ugly or easy but.....I'm really quite and shy). He never told me until 6 months ago that he was friends with my gyno. We never slept together because he just seemed liked a player. Me and my gyno are very close....I tell him everything. I even told him personal business about me and my ex-husband. I have a real boyfriend now and I think I maybe pregnant. I shared this with my ex boyfriend "only" the other day. He congratulated me and walked away really fast. The very next day, my doctor called me and asked if I needed to come see him early instead of waiting till August. I told him no and asked why. He said he would not be in his office. I found this really weird because he has never did this......Am I being talked about? Was my pics shown to my doctor? Was my ex trying to play me? What was going on? I feel ashamed, embarrassed, laughed at.....he was my ex boyfriend....I trusted him....is he sharing or has shared private things with his best friend who is my doctor.....help!
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reader, TEM +, writes (10 June 2011):
 There are a few things that need to be separated here. Doctors are bound by the law not to disclose patient information. Check out the HIPPA laws.
While it is not out of the question that your doctor friends violated privacy laws, the rest appears to be coincidence to me. You say you are a little shy, yet you shared sexy pics and texts with your ex. This may have been out of your comfort zone. I think you are fearful that your ex told your OBGYN doc about you is because you have guilt surrounding the disclosure of those intimate pics and text messages. Guilt is a very powerful emotion.
Try to relax about it. You haven't done anything wrong. You had the good sense not to sleep with the doctor. Look at this as a lesson learned, and exercise good judgment in terms of what you send out about yourself in pics and texts in the future.
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