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writes:I'm going out with this guy, and we're happy and it's all hunky dory, except...He gets good grades, and can play a bunch of different instruments, and knows a bunch of languages fluently, and he's good at art, and is a black belt in karate and a bunch of other martial arts...And I get awful grades, I can only play piano (and pretty badly too), and I'm only really fluent in English. And I'm not athletic at all. The only thing I'm really good at is art.So I'm constantly in awe of his being able to be so, well, perfect, and at the same time I feel super inferior 'cause I'm just so average and silly. I'm not even very attractive, and a bit overweight too. And he's tall and thin!!But he was the one to ask me out, and I'm just---almost bewildered why he would even like me. He treats me like I'm the most important thing to him, and I'm so flattered, yet I feel like I really don't deserve that.So in short, he's awesome and I'm really not; what should I do? Should I try to become as good as him? Or is it just fine the way it is now and I'm just being a worry wart?Thanks :)
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reader, mint  +, writes (11 June 2011):
 You know what he likes you as you are as you said he asked you out. This shows you that he likes everything about you and that you do not need to change. You must never try to change for a guy, he thinks your perfect as you are. So accept it and have a lovely relationship with this guy!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2011): don't do anything. if he asked you out then thats all that matters he chose you for your beauty and personality not for what your good at. you should only try and play an instrument or take up sport if its what you want if you don't want to then don't.
if you still feel this way just talk to him about what you feel. im sure he'll help you in anyway possible
your just low on confidence and you need to know that your bf thinks your perfect just the way you are
hope i helped
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reader, justme..x +, writes (10 June 2011):
 Aww bless you ... reading this made me a little sad. It sounds like you have a very low opinion of yourself, which you need to work on! Yes, so this guy is amazing. He's good at so much, he's attractive. And he wanted YOU! So I'm guessing you must be pretty awesome too, even if you can't see it. The way we see ourselves is different to how others see us. He could probably list all the good things about you easily, whilst you'd struggle to come up with just a few.Please, don't change yourself. I know it's so hard when you care for and admire someone, you just feel you're not good enough; you want to almost ... not earn them, but you want to feel you match them, deserve them, you want to feel good enough for them. I had a similar thing - not with a boyfriend, just someone I was infatuated with - and I tried to change myself, trying to teach myself guitar and singing because he was amazing at them ... it didn't go well, because at the end of the day we are who we are. It was a hard lesson to learn, and I really really hope you don't do it the hard way like I did. I have my strengths, and he has his. I daresay it's the same for you and your boyfriend. As you said, HE was the one to ask YOU out! So you have no reason to think you're not good enough. He is NOT "out of your league". He's the one that wanted you! :) Good luck and CHIN UP! :) stop worrying! xxx
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