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writes:I have been dating a man for about 20 months. In March he was promoted and it has been very stressful for him, including traveling a great deal of time. He was recently gone on a six week trip to seven different cities with only a day or two rest in between cities Before this, everything was good between us, but he is in constant worry mode now and has lost a great deal of weight. He has even cancelled dates with me recently. I asked him if it was all related to his work and he emailed me that he had lost his sex drive and didn't feel anything when he was with me anymore (being the past three weeks) and he said he was ending our relationship.I haven't replied back to him. I know better than to chase him over this, but I can't help but to feel that the stress he is feeling is affecting his judgement right now. Am I being rational in giving him some space and hoping he will come around, or should I move on? I care very much for this man, but I've really had to take a back seat in his life the past few months. I know there is no other woman because he is losing weight and not even interested in porn. He truly has lost his sex drive.During this same time, though, we seemed to grow closer emotionally and intellectually. It is all very confusing......... Still I have always been a believer in believing what a man tells me.......
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reader, mwalsh +, writes (10 September 2008):
I agree with Sappygirl, he has definetly moved on and it sounds like he was very blunt about it too. He also gave many signs (weight loss, traveling all the time, lack of sex drive), of the impeding doom.
I'm sorry to say but it sounds like he was cheating on you but if you think not and if he dares to come back at some point in the future with a viable reason then you can decide then whether you want to take back a man who callously broke your heart after two years of dating.
Polish your shoes and start dating because it's over. Don't let him see you cry or miserable. Men always want what they can't or don't have and when they have it, they don't want it. Seeing you happy will make him miserable.
Best Wishes on meeting a great New Guy!
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reader, sappygirl +, writes (10 September 2008):
 I think you are just making excuses for his behavior.
You should definitely Move on with your life. he obviously moved on with his. Good luck
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