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36-40,
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writes:Dear Cupid,i am currently in a long distance rlationship with this girl that i've know since new year's day, 2010. things started out ok, then really picked up in march, april. we broke up in july, but have been dating again since 3rd september. sometimes we get along, sometimes we don't. i really love this girl alot, no matter what. we've had our fair share of arguments, but i still love her. she is very beautiful and is into video games like me and we don't live that far away from each other. i think that we have alot in common. we're in the same state. now, here's the problem. she gets easily upset. she's emo and very sensitive and its been hurting our relationship rather hard. this past monday, she got extremely mad at me b/c i told her i didn't want this specific boy talking to her b/c she likes him and i get jealous very easily. she also cheated on me with this boy, so understandably, i don't want them talking to each other. i don't think she understands that. she has been mad at me since monday and we haven't been getting along at all, just b/c i told her i didn't want this boy talking to her. btw, after cheating on me, she was gonna decide who to date, me or him, and she chose me last sunday, but things haven't been good at all. i really want a future with this girl. i want to meet her and be with her every single day. i yearn to be with her. i wanna just cuddle up with her and feel the warmth of her body, hug her, caress her, etc. anyways, my question is, am i being rational here? am i right for telling her i don't want this boy talking to her? remember, she cheated on me with him. she claims to still love me b/c she still talks to me despite all the fighting and not getting along. please give me some advice as well. it'd be greatly appreciated. i need help!
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (20 September 2010):
 I understand where you are coming from and I admit that if I were in your place I'd be nervous too, nevertheless, no, you were wrong, for the simple reason you can't ever tell another adult whom they can talk to . You can't control anybody's behaviour and you cannot set rules for communication even if she is your significant one.
You may say " Yes but if she loved me she would understand she makes me suffer "- and she could reply " If he loved me he would understand that he needs to respect my choices ".
Eventually,it all bolis down to trust. If you trust her, she could be chummy with a dozen of ex lovers and it wouldn't faze you. If you don't trust her ...well, think seriously if you can and want to be in a relationship with someone you cannot trust, because it's gonna be tough.
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