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writes:okay so ive ended up getting the guy of my dreams!! literally im head over heels for him, weve known each other for like 7 months and only been dating for 1 but hes everything i ever wanted hes sweet, good looking and he thinks the same about me...now hereas my problem... my parents arent going to allow me to go out with a white guy... im indian and my familys not strict.... but they do worry about culture and what society will say if they found out blah blah blah, quite frankly i think its a load of crap and i always end up arguing with my family over silly things that they believe in and i dont, im very independant, the only problem is im living under their roof so their like you have to follow our rules... now im really starting to like this guy...(i know its not long) but hes just amazing, but im scared of falling with him when i know what my familys like but i dont want to tell him in case he leaves me :(... what do i do? x Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2010): A good, somewhat educational film I found on interracial dating was an early 90s oliver stone film, zebrahead. I highly suggest you watch it as it does address some serious issues. Your issue is clearly with your parents. I dated an Indian girl and her parents hated Arabs. They didnt even know me and they smacked a label on me as a Muslime terrorist. How did I overcome such adversity? Well, I just kept being myself and sooner or later they were convinced I wasnt. That took a damn long time tho. I think its important you find a way for your parents to see the inside of this guy. Maybe even as simple as arranging a very formal meeting as you are all mature and can sit down and be aware of each other's issues. That might sound Dr Phil but hopefully it will help no one keep anything inside and create a bad communication issue between you, your bf, and your fam. Best of luck.
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