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writes: hi,I have been married for 4 years and we have a daughter together, i have two children from a previous marriage.when we first met sex was great, then i feel pregnant with our daughter and things were good.as soon as i had my daughter she is nearly 5, our sex life has gone right down the pan. we have no foreplay (his decision) It is just the same sex position every single time and we maybe have sex once a month, twice if i am very very lucky.thing is he does not seem interested in sex with me at all, i have gone from a size 10 to 14 however i have just been diagnoised with a under active thyroid.he always says we must start getting fit together (he is still the same size and weight than when i first met him)and when i have asked does he like the way i am the answer i get is, "well i love you snd yes we could both do with losing weight" (like i said nothing wrong with him)however i know he still finds slim women sexy as i have seen on his phone bill that he has downloaded women stripping and i have seen him with lads mags, i know he also masturbates a lot.when ever i bring anything up about the sex subject he just stomps of to bed and say"if you gonna start im of to bed" do you think i am being paranoid or does my hubby really not find me attractive? i know he loves me totally as a person as i always get told he loves me and i always get a kiss in the morning and at night. it is just the making love, this has been going on 4 years now and i am about to explode with rage soon.
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reader, SexKitten69  +, writes (28 November 2006):
 HI, Firstly i think you should find time to sit a stress your points to you hubby. I know it's hard work and quite draining having kids so why not try getting a babysitter for a night or weekend (Maybe granparents could help out) and spend a few sexy nights together? Dress up for him and remind him of the woman he married, try new things together or even as a family (Days out etc),
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reader, guylostinlove +, writes (28 November 2006):
to be honest. if you've gained a lot of weight, that might have thrown off his physical attraction to you -- sexually.
as much as we hate to admit it, most of us are animals and like looking at someone that's physically attractive.
if he's giving you hints of getting 'fit' ... then that probably is the case. get your underactive thyroid in control and find some time to do some cardio. even 15-30 minutes a day of the right exercise will help you lose a few pounds.
though, for your own good, you should get your weight in control.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2006): Men are stupid. I'll wager that years from now (if you are still together), he'll look at old photos of you and wonder why he ever lost interest (during this current period of time). Remember, guys are stupid. Perhaps he needs to be reminded that your having two children was far more physically demanding that anything he's ever done.
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