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writes: I had been dating this guy, 3 years my senior, for about a year and a half. and everything was great, but over this past summer, i broke up with him b/c i fell inlove with someone else. we had a really bad break-up, but we were on and off a little while after that b/c i was afraid to completely break off in fear of regret. But after thinking long and hard about it, i decided it would be best to completely end it. that didn't go to well. but he is REALLY good friends with my aunt,Maria, and the rest of my family for that matter. and he comes to my aunt's house,her job, and our family parties, and he knows very well that i will be at all these places. But when he sees me, he stays completely away from me. I don't get it?? why would he come if he knows i'm gonna be there. and to be honest, my family parties arent that fun, so i know thats not why he goes.. What should i do when i'm around him? b/c i still have some small feelings for him, but they're more b/c i like attention. How should i deal with this? and do you think my aunt is maybe trying to get us back together? HELP!
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reader, MadlyinLove624 +, writes (18 December 2006):
MadlyinLove624 is verified as being by the original poster of the question So guys, i guess i have some good news.
Me and him were at my aunts house, and he was being really mean to me. so i got mad at him and left the room. he came into the room i was in and ask if i would go for a walk with him. we took a 2 hour walk, and now were good friends. he was flirting with me ALOT the last time i was at my aunts house, but i kno everything is worked out between us. thanks to everyone who commented
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reader, MadlyinLove624 +, writes (18 December 2006):
MadlyinLove624 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSo guys, i guess i have some good news.
Me and him were at my aunts house, and he was being really mean to me. so i got mad at him and left the room. he came into the room i was in and ask if i would go for a walk with him. we took a 2 hour walk, and now were good friends. he was flirting with me ALOT the last time i was at my aunts house, but i kno everything is worked out between us. thanks to everyone who commented
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2006): I think you should have a word with your aunt, if she is inviting him then ask her to stop, she could harbour ideas of you two getting back together. You need to tell her straight. If he still goes to all the places that you do and don't make any attempt to speak or come forward then just hold your head up high and live your life. He will get bored with it all in time. Some people find it very hard to let go and get on with their own life. Just get on with yours.
Enjoy your future!
Take care
xx
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reader, Sally R. Cinnamon +, writes (28 November 2006):
 Hi there. Your ex is making it hard for you, by appearing at these parties and not talking to you.
* Is he angry with you for the break up?
* Is he trying to demonstrate that he's okay without you and doesn't need you?
* Perhaps he gets a little bit of revenge from making you uncomfortable.
* Perhaps he really just wants to stay in touch with your family but finds it too hard to talk to you so keeps his distance?
There could be lots of reasons for his behaviour. If you are totally confused and just don't know, I wouldn't bother guessing him. Just run along with how your ex wants to play this - if he doesnt want to talk to you at parties then make that fine by you. He's the one who is hurting most after the break up and hes got to find his own way of dealing with it. So just let it wash over you. Relax. Act yourself. Don't lead him on. Don't puzzle desperately over his behaviour, just let it be.
As for the Aunt, she may just be inviting this guy to parties just because she is friends with him and with no secret desire to get you back together. Again, I cant tell you. Even if she is, she'll soon enough grow out of it. You've made a decision not to go out with him, it sounds like a good decision given what you say about liking the attention, so stick with it. Your aunt can't change your mind.
-Sally
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reader, laba +, writes (28 November 2006):
i think your aunt was.'cause nobody in your family cares about ur love.He is trying to send you a message listen to him it will all work out in time.
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