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writes:Thanks in advance for alll help.So we do everything as we married, thats a plan for down the pike. However in the last three months My Granny, and Step Grandad and my boyfriends Dad past away. So were both under all the stress. I have looked at my boyfriends parents as parents aswell. However before his dad passed we were going to go to them about moving into a less expensive home (they rent the house from us) and still renting from us - so we can plan for our goals and dreams.. They have lived in the house since spring, and they are older- we want to make sure they are took care of and we don't have the huge financial burden. Now his mom is there and you can imagane -what she is going through- but then here we are a large debt a house payment she has no money.. Ever since his dad past away she has been saying I don't know how much longer I can work- plus she just got back to work from medical leave..... Now yes there was a bit of life insurance just eneough to pay for funeral cost and head stone. Am I wrong in seeing the future is not going to be good for her and my boyfriend and me if things stay the same.. I told my boyfriend why not approach her as we were going to do and find somthing nicer and less expensive and smaller that way were able to help - if need be. Before she was asking him to refinace and I was like no it's stupid to and then you wind up in the same boat at the end .. Well her and him talked - and they dicided to refiance she is giving him 2thousand - to refinance.. I came home and was like what the heck - whats going to happen when she can not work, or if she does get ss or disability how is she going to afford to pay the rent... Not to stop and think about our future of goals and dreams... How is that a good deal for us when the 2000 wont even cover closing cost or intrest... I have always been the type to think ahead on my and attepmt to plan ahead - and I think this is a horrible idea - and in the end - no one is going to be better off only in a worse bind... I love his mom and I love my boyfriend but I dont see how this is a great plan for anyone..what should I do? Or am I being mean? Help
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reader, sarahrose20  +, writes (5 September 2010):
i see your point loud and clear and it makes sense but you also need to have compassion shes going to cling to her son now more than ever cuz she needs him n obviously he loves her too much he cant say no you might have to talk to her directly
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