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writes:Hi, I will try keeps this short. The beginning of last year I was very ill with Glandular fever. I had it for a very long time which made me become depressed and a different person. This took its toll on mine and my ex’s relationship which sadly eventually broke us apart late last year. My Ex was very much a family man and loved his family more than anything, he had a very strong relationship with his mum, which sometimes I thought was unhealthy at his age but considering the issues the family have been though together, I could see why they would be so close and needed each other. His family was more like a family to me. When we broke up I didn’t just lose my ex, I also lost a family that I loved very much. I use to have all his family on Facebook but when things went wrong I deleted them off to try making the healing process for me easier. A month later once we broke up, my ex started to go out with my new ‘friend’ who I met at university. They have now being going out for 8 months.. neither of them talk to me and my ‘friend’ has made him hate me. Anyway, last week I get a friend request from my ex’s mother... at this point it was a bit of a blast from the past as I was finally over everything from so I was therefore very confused and didn’t understand or even know what to do but I added her anyway to see what she wanted.I still talk to my ex’s best friend and from talking to him and adding his mum on Facebook I have found out that my ‘friend’ is completely controlling my ex, he’s not allowed his own friends (which has really upset his best friend as they were really close), she made him delete his Facebook (but she still has one), made him change his mobile number and now she has managed to turn him against his family and completely hate his mother who he use to love dearly. She has made him move out of his hometown to her hometown. Talking to my ex’s mum, she says that before they fell out, he was not his happy, cheery, fun loving self, she never saw him smile. What can I say to make his mum feel better as she is so heartbroken to lose her son? I really want to help her get him back. He use to be my best friend and I was happy if he was happy but now I know he’s not happy I want to do something to help... does anyone have any ideas of what we could do to get him back to his family??x x x
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reader, CharmedCupid +, writes (6 September 2010):
 Yeah,I do believe people are meant to be together,and I know nothing about you,but I have a gift you see,I can tell when two people are in love,I can tell how their heart beat is,I can tell most things about love,and wanna know something else too? I'm only 18.
I know these things because when it comes to love,I use my heart,not my head 3 xxx
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reader, --Nicki-- +, writes (6 September 2010):
--Nicki-- is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks I will try! Can I ask, do you belive that people that are meant to be together always find their way back together in the end?
I never stopped loving my ex or his family.. x x x
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reader, CharmedCupid +, writes (4 September 2010):
Well,yeah,try it over the phone,but make sure his girlfriend is not there or that will cause some serious problems. You still gotta try rite? And I am no specialist when it comes to these kind of things but everyone always asks for my opinions and advise and I am happy to help.
Tell his mother that it will be alright in time,not to worry too much,and be there for her as much as you can,just to show her how much they mean to you and how much you care! Though it may seem that all hope is lost.....but never give up,somewhere in there he is dieing to talk to someone,give him that notice that you are there for him,and you'll always be there for him no matter what xx
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reader, --Nicki-- +, writes (4 September 2010):
--Nicki-- is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much CharmedCupid for replying. I agree with you and what you are saying but he has moved far away, I can't bump into him and talk to him face to face.
Can I still get through to him over the phone (if he has not changed his number again? What can I say to his mum to make her feel better, I feel so bad for her :(
x x x
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reader, CharmedCupid +, writes (4 September 2010):
Well my dear,I am dearly sorry to hear this between you and him. I am also truely sorry that this happened to him as you explained; seeing he loved his family dearly.Now,what you can do,is if at some point in time,you run into him,get in contact with him or get some sort of stable information about him,ask to speak with him urgently.Make sure his "girlfriend" does not tag along as it would cause alot of problems.One thing is for sure,if you jump straight into it,he is going to cut you off and walk away,talk to him normally, and build up to the question,start off with reminding him what the bond between him and his family use to be,remind him of the special bond of him and his mother,and what is use to be,and what it has become. And also,don't presure him,that's the last thing you want.Ask him if he sees what's going on,he met a girl,he got close to her,she made him turn against the person he would give his life for,she made him break her heart (mother) and she's made him do one of the things he said he'd not have done (Move from his home town) Then look at him sadly,as if your going to cry,and then look down,remind him that you love him,and when the both of you were going out,this never happened,and you've known him for a couple years.....also last but not least,show him what he's become. He's fallen out with you,his mother and his family,he's moved away,broke his mothers heart and she is controlling him.Tell him he's changed and everyone is hurt by it and then tell him everyone home misses him,especially you. then hear what he says 3 xxxIf you need more advise because you think mine was helpfull,please feel free to contact me further through private message or anything of the sort. xxx take care
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