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writes: Am I being jealous and controlling, and if I am how do I stop? My fiance and I just got engaged two months ago, and a month ago he left for a vacation by himself for two months (his dad and friends are going down two separate weeks). I saw him last weekend, I'm going down this weekend, and also once in April. I've told him that I think it is too long of a trip, and finally he started admitting it (thought he's already gone). He would say things like it's not a big deal if he dances with girls (and in the same sentence says he doesn't want to and isn't going to). Everytime we talk on the phone after one of us has gone out we ask each other if we danced with other people. I don't want him to. He says I ask him too much and he thinks I don't trust him. But, he asks me everytime I go out if I danced with guys and if guys tried to hit on me. I trust him, I just can't stop thinking about how the way I met him was in a bar when he was by himself and he had a girlfriend and I had a boyfriend (we never cheated). He says it's different with me, and now he has his dream girl. But, I keep having nightmares that he's cheating on me. I think more of what I'm afraid of is him talking to girls and getting their numbers, claiming to being just friends with them (like he was with me when he first met me). I don't think he will cheat, but is it reasonable that I feel the way I do? And what should I do to change? Should I just never ask if he danced with girls? Then I will feel like he thinks I don't care what he does. I need some advice!
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reader, AskEve  +, writes (27 February 2007):
 Okay, it's all very clear now. I asked if either of you were Aries because both male and female Arians can be very jealous where the opposite sex is concerned.
It a word NO, he will not or is not cheating on you. Virgo's need a lot of reassurance as they (believe it or not) don't have a lot of confidence in themselves. He's totally crazy and devoted to you. He's saying these things to you to see just how keen you are on him. Let him know you don't mind if that's what he wants to do, as long as he knows YOUR his babe! He'll 100 per cent say back to you, "nah I wouldn't do that, I love you too much" or words to that effect. You're getting paranoid over nothing here.
Enjoy your space, you as an Aquarian do like space and having friends around you but TRUST HIM... he won't cheat on you if he's keen and the fact he got engaged to you PROVES he's keen. What should you do to change? Reassure him, let him know how much you miss him and how you can't wait to see him again. Boost his ego a bit and let him know he'll always be number one with you and I promise you, he'll remain faithful to you.
Let me know if I can be of any more help okay?
Eve
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAskEve,I am 24 and an Aquarius and he is 33 and a Virgo, and we have been together officially since around halloween (about 4 months). I know it seems soon, but we knew each other a little last year.
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reader, AskEve +, writes (27 February 2007):
You feel so insecure because you're miles apart that's all. You need to learn to trust him (and he you... are either of you an Aries???) How old are you both? What ARE your star signs? How long have you been together? Get back to me so that I can finish answering your question.
Eve
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