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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Dear Cupid,Recently, my crush admitted to me that he is still in love with his ex-girlfriend, who is one of my closest friends. Well, during Spanish class today, I passed her a note asking her if she likes him, too. She said that she does "somewhat"...but that she would "NeVeR go back out with him again". When I asked her why, she said, "Because he treats YOU like CRAP, that's why!" (he's not as bad as he used to be, but yes, there have been times when he did, indeed, treat me like crap). I told her that she shouldn't let me stand in her way and that if she likes him to "go for it". She wrote back saying, "No, I would never do that to you!" (even though she did back when we were in seventh grade). I'm glad that I won't have to worry about them being together, but at the same time, I feel really guilty. I mean, I don't want my friend to not go out with him just because I like him. And what if he gets mad at me if she tells him that she doesn't want to be with him because of me? She doesn't think that I should feel guilty, and she doesn't want me to feel guilty, either. How can I stop the guilt?~Jaded~
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reader, AskEve  +, writes (27 February 2007):
 Why would you tell your friend that to let you stand in her way of getting back with your boyfriend if you are already going out with him? Are you testing her to see if she'd say okay? I think you are worrying unnecessarily here. He's with you because he WANTS to be with you. Your friend has moved on now, she's told you as much so don't feel guilty and enjoy being with him and have fun.
Don't let him treat you like a doormat though. Stand up for yourself and don't ever let him disrespect you. You're worth much more!
Eve
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