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writes:Me and my brother have gone through a lot. Over the course of 4-5 years i've had to defend my mother from him hitting her, myself from him stabbing me etc. He was on drugs (Meth/Ecstasy etc.) for over 3 years and it basically sucked all my parents money and emotional stability and I was the only stable one within the family.The recent situation put him in jail 6 months ago. He got drunk (0.30 BAC) and basically started fighting me and I stopped the fight and walked away, my mother came downstairs and he pushed her across the living room and was waving a knife around at me and I kicked his ass.I refuse to talk to him, interract with him or even acknowledge he's alive while he's in there and when he gets out and I will continue doing so until he gets his s**t together. My question is if this is cruel on my side?I'm 20 and he's 23 btw
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (16 March 2010):
I think you are doing the right thing here. Sometimes we have to make decisions that are hard and will hurt. But you need to make this decision for yourself and your family. He is of now use to anyone as he is.
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reader, kayla20 +, writes (16 March 2010):
 his bahaviour is completely unacceptable and he has obviously got into the wrong habits and wrong crowd who may be influencing him.i think you are deffinately doing the right thing and i think your parents should do the exact same thing as yourself as he wont change until he realises the damage he is causing to his family aswel as himself he needs to hit rock bottom before he even starts to consider turning his life around.if you all distance yourself from your brother its for your own safety and it will make him realise that his actions have lead him to nothing he needs to gain respect it might take him a long time to realise but you need to stick to your guns and not give in otherwise hel ruin your lives aswel as his own
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reader, Kenj +, writes (16 March 2010):
 No one has the right to hit another person, however this is difference in a self defense situation.
You have tried your best in this and now its gone too far.
He needs professional help you cant fix this. Here is the tough part; has to first admit he has the problem to get that help.
I really do think you have done the right thing here, you should also keep him away from your mother for the time being if at all possible. Dont look at it as giving up on him its just seperating yourself until he gets better.
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