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writes: i have been with my bf for over 3years now. we both had plans on Fri nite but last nite i told him how mine had fallen through. i had never dropped hints about him inviting me out with him n his mates but he asked if i wanted to go, i said no because i always feel a bit akward but he said his mates gf was gonna b there, i get on with her really well but i still said no. anyway the convo carried on and he said he'd actually prefer it if i wasnt there.im not worried about him cheating on me but im hurt that he said that, ive never ever asked to go out with them before but he has invited me and i get on really well with most of them, the others i just dont know that well.i am actually feeling quite hurt by this.what is your opinion on this? am i right to feel this way? or am i being a drama queen?please give me your opinions, i will be truely greatful!xXx Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2007): He was hurt that you declined his offer, that's why he reacted like this. Tell him that it wasn't because of him but because you felt awkward about his mates. Hopefully he'll understand and anyway remember, he was out of order telling you that he'd actually prefer it if you weren't there. You know that's a lie as he wouldn't have invited you in the first place if he didn't want you to be there.
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reader, AskEve  +, writes (30 March 2007):
 I think your boyfriend too was hurt because you said you didn't want to go and him saying he preferred you not to go anyway was just his way of dealing with it. He wanted to let you see it didn't bother him (but I think he was hurt too.) I wouldn't worry about it though, at least he asked you, which was considerate of him. Maybe he wanted to hurt you a little because you hurt him, that's all!
It's trivial, forget it!
Eve
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reader, Ask Heather +, writes (29 March 2007):
 As I see it, you both had plans made for an evening out with friends. Having been together for over 3 years, you are happy together and have trust in each other. Then your plans fall through for your evening out. He sees your dissapointment, and asks you to come along with him; his mate`s girlfriend is going to be there, who you get along with well. You say No, you won`t go. What else do you want him to do? Maybe he said he`d prefer it if you wern`t with him as he could see you`ve got the hump, (through no fault of his own), and that you may spoil the evening for everyone, yourself included, if you went along in a grumpy mood. Please remember, this silly situation would never have occured if the evening plans had not changed. And that`s ALL it is, a silly situation! You`ve been together for over 3 years, and if this is the scale of upset between you both - then you two are truly blessed! With Love, Heather.
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