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writes:when i was 16 years old i dated my brothers friend,i dint like him that much cause he wasnt that gorgeous and i dint like his nature either..he wanted to have sex with me but i dint agree as i said i dint like him..i did not kiss or make out with him either.the most we have done is just huggingg..he moved to another city and we stopped talking to each other..and then after a year i dated this super model who was totally cute..when i met him i made out with him but it dint lead to sex again cause i was not ready..we were having a long distance relationship and things were not workin out for us..so we just stopped talking to each other..but he would call me once in a blue moon to check on me which is cute..anyways a few months back i went to nevada where i met this guy he asked me out on a date..and we we made out as in just kissed thats it no sex..and some thing dint feel right about what i did. so i stopped talkin to him but he kept texting me saying that he loves me..but now he is over me..so now i am in university and i really like this sweet simple natured guy a lot but i dont know if he would want a girl like me..do u think i have a dark past??or is it normal for teenagers to do this..am i slut??i really need to know thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2008): uhhh no technically to be considered a slut you have to have had sex with at least 6 or 7 guys.. and this is coming from a guys perspective. trust me u r not a slut.
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reader, WastedLife  +, writes (2 May 2008):
You sound like you're finding your way. Try looking in the mirror and smiling, and focusing on that smile for a full seven seconds. You are cool, and OK, and others are good people too. We are a bit short on trust in the world, so try trusting, as long as you are safe. Follow your instincts - women are better at this than guys. You can't wait forever with someone or they will find someone else, so it's a balance - being safe enough and still open to new experiences. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2008): No you aren't a slut but be careful don't keep getting yourself into situations where you could have sex.. not straight away.
Get to know guys better, go on all manner of dates, yep a kiss and a cuddle is fine at first but wait a few months before you even get in a really intimate situation - you never know you could end up having sex with somone because you don't like to say no or you could end up being raped??
Okay this may sound extreme but just be careful x
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reader, Jamer70  +, writes (1 May 2008):
 A virgin slut?
No you never had sex with them so your nowhere near a slut
You have no dark past, its pretty light
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (1 May 2008):
 So you are a virgin?
Odd way to be a slut.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionlol thanks everyone i feel much much better
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (1 May 2008):
 I see no problems here, other than the fact that you should have a more positive image of yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank u soo much everyone it really helps..i really like this sweet natured guy and want him to give the best i can..should i tell him my past or just let it go???
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2008): wow, NO youre not a slut at all!!
Kissing 4 guys before uni is really good, I probably kisse about, uhm... 25?
There are girls here who have had sex with over 100 guys. Thats being a slut, ok?
Babe you sound totally grounded and centred which is great! Plus you have morals! Im sure this guy will like you and not be bothered by your past at all! Its about as innocent as it gets...!!
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (1 May 2008):
So pretty much, you've kissed 4 guys before you got to uni?
That is pretty much normal - in fact I would go further than that and say you are quite pure.
The average age in the UK to lose your virginity is 17. If you have boundaries because you are not ready for sex then that is great, keep them.
Find your self a loving guy and then everything will feel fine. Until then keep going as you are, flirt and have fun at uni, that is the most important thing.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2008): Kissing boys doesn't make you a slut, but your fixation on what they look like as THE determining factor of whether they attract you makes you sound pretty shallow. I'd be less worried about what this guy may think of your past and more worried about what you actually see in him, as far as anything that's going to be a basis for a long-term relationship. Remember, everyone's going to be old and ugly someday, but some of those people will be old, ugly, and interesting at least. I have friends who married their partners primarily for looks and deeply regret it now, as all the original character flaws are MUCH less charming in someone who no longer looks like a "super model."
Think about it.
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reader, -NothingLasts4ever- +, writes (1 May 2008):
 Course your not a slut... you didn't have sex with those boys. If you had sex with all of them then maybe... but you didn't so you're not.
Every teenager does that.. or most at least. Just go for it =]
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