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*pendy
writes:please dont be rude or get me wrong yeah but this is what i think.when some girls have a bf, they would always wanna be with him, text him and call him non stop.. always want to know, where he is who hes with and what hes doing. And they always text him how much they love him, need him and want him.but I am not like that..even when am in love i always wait for the guy to call me, text me,, take me out etc: and I call but once in a while to make it special.. and get on with other things.is it wrong that it think girls do this?? like they involve their lives around the guys they are seeing..dont the guys get fed up of this behaviour cos i think is ridiculous the way some girls behave.please dont get me wrong..am just curious..:) am 19 going on 20
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reader, HisBabyGurl-x +, writes (7 November 2009):
i wish i could be more like you =(
i hate bein the naggy gf..serusly...i dunno why i do it..i think its lack of trust tbh..i constantly wanna know were he is and if hes thinkin about me..its stupid really
i wish i was more laid back like you!! u go girl ;) =D
ur perfectly normal...ne tips on how ta be like you?
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (7 November 2009):
Thank God, you ARE normal. You're not obsessed all the time like some girls (who can be very scary!). You're normal, so don't worry and just hold out for a guy who really respects you and loves you.
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reader, Illithid  +, writes (7 November 2009):
 You are normal. Girls come in more than one variety and I've had both girlfriends that called me every day (even getting worried if I was so much as fifteen minutes late getting in touch with her) and recently a girl that isn't interested in meeting up more than once a week and dislikes being smothered (either by calling me or by my calling her).
There are girls that are obsessive and clingy. There are girls that are aloof and independent. And there are girls in the middle. All options are normal. All that matters is finding a guy that is compatible with your inclination. Some guys will feel abandoned by you, where as some would be grateful that you aren't needy.
Either way though, you're fine. Just hold out for a man that respects who you are.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2009): Yeah what tux said. I certainly think that some gys would appreciate someone who likes her own space and gives him his own space. I would. I have interests and hobbies that I don't need a girlfriend to be involved with. But I think you can take it too far. If he's always the one initiating contact and asking you out he might get the idea you're not bothered. You might find that he suddenly stops calling and assume he's not interested anymore. But maybe he just wants to know if you care enough to actually call him if you don't hear from him for a while.
I think there's a happy medium somewhere between clingy and indifferent.
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reader, tux +, writes (7 November 2009):
 well back in the day, it would be improper for a girl to call a guy... things have changed :P but well.. I wouldn't say having a girl calling a guy nonstop and txting or what not is a bad thing... it is only bad if she is constantly thinking or accusing him that he is running around town chasing after other girls.
but there are limits on both end of the spectrum.. if they call/txt/whatever too much, they are clingy... if they don't call/txt/whatever too much, then they don't care enough about them.. it's all about being in balance in a way that the other likes... some guys or gals may like the constant attention while others may not.
but i will it depends on how the person you are with feels about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2009): I think you're in the normal range as far as GFs go...some people want more "attachment" than others, sure. Don't worry about being normal...just be yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2009): [Moderator note: text speak translated to English]its not wrong.i think sometimes the same way, i mean i wanna wait for them to call me or text me. but if i want to hear from them badly i end up texting him, but it just means that you're a good girlfriend and respect him and trust him, which is good and yes they get fed up with it that. that is why they end up breaking up with her later on. but if you're in a good relationship and everything you have nothing to worry about well i hoped i helped good luck :)
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