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writes:im just about to turn 15 and i've never had a boyfriend or been kissed. ive never even had a friend who was a boy. i feel like a freak, is it normal not to have your first kiss at my age?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2010): wow, i asked the same exact question on here and it got rejected! and yeah, i feel the same. i'm 13 and have never been kissed, except for during a game of spin the bottle, so it didn't count. i guess it's fine, so just hang in there. you'll get it soon!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2010): Hey, I just wanted you to know that I was exactly the same, I'm 16 now with an amazing boyfriend. I was starting to get a little worried, so I kissed a boy for the first time at a party which was incredible, and then I met my boyfriend and I'm really happy now. Even if the same thing doesn't happen for you yet, it will soon, just be a really amazing person and every boy will want you - make sure you're doing lots of other fun things while you're waiting.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2010): It is quite normal for your age not to have your first kiss or your first boyfriend. Don't worry about it. I am 18 and never kissed a girl or had a girlfriend yet. Don't worry about being in a rush to find one. You can find one at your own pace.
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reader, lacrymosa_652 +, writes (18 November 2010):
 It can seem as if everyone has a boyfriend or has had experience kissing, but that's not the case. I understand you may feel left out and lacking in experience, but it's totally 'normal' to be 15 and have never kissed a boy.
I was 18 when I first kissed a boy, and had my first boyfriend when I was 18 going on 19. I have friends who are going on 20 who have never been in a relationship before. Don't worry about your "lack of experience", there's plenty of people who are older than you who havent done anything either. Sometimes, it's even nicer to wait a bit.. when I had my first boyfriend, I was glad that I'd never been in a relationship with anyone before him, it felt more special :)
If you want to make more male friends, you can easily just talk to the boys at your school. It's easy to just make conversation in a classroom about the work, or you can talk about something you watched on TV last night *shrugs* anything, just get chatting. If you go to an all girls school, you could join a club or something after school hours, and meet guys there. If you do make more male friends, don't feel pressured to like one of them and get involved with them, just keep things on a friendship level. Save your first kiss for someone you really like, it'll be more meaningful :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2010): It's not abnormal.
If it makes you feel any better, I didn't have my first kiss until I was 17.
When you're ready, the time will come.
There's nothing wrong with you!
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reader, always ready to listen +, writes (18 November 2010):
there is a lot of pressure on teenagers from their own peer group to do things like kissing boys because they see it as part of growing up but you are the grown up here because you are waiting till the time is right.
things happen in life if you let them just because you haven't done the kissing bit yet doesn't mean you are wrong you are biding your time remember that and just keep enjoying life.
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (18 November 2010):
 Nothing abnormal with you at all. Don't worry about it. It will happen when the time is right.
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