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writes:Is it me? Married 24yrs and my husband is perfectly nice everyone likes him but I feel so neglected. I have taken a week off work and I am five days into it and have not held a conversation with my husband who is more intent on watching the horse racing and engaging in his hobbies. I have booked a day out for his birthday in May but he would prefer to go to a meeting which he could miss. I would love a day out with him this week but he chooses to go out with his friend for a day. I feel like I am constantly waiting for him, waiting for us to do something together. We never do. I ask myself what am I doing in this marriage, he loves my salary but does he really love me? Am I a financial conveniance? Is it that I have no life of my own outside work, or is my husband my life? I want to spend my spare time with him but he so obviously does not want to spend his spare time with me? When I mention anything or try to talk to him about my feelings I am being nasty or he clams up with here we go again. Reply to this Question
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reader, loving arms +, writes (18 February 2009):
My first question is what did you book for his birthday? If it was a day at the races; which i'd expect he'd love, then i would have thought he'd have jumped to spend the day with you. If however you booked something you'd like then maybe this is where the problem lies.
He might also be taking you for granted, in which case i'd play him at his own game and start your own social life. tell him you are not going to have no life while he has one. Make it your business to say this is what i am doing, you are welcome to join me but if you don't want to then i'm off. Do not leave money for him to do something else let him get a part-time job to fund his outings.
Good luck mate, we only get one life you have a right to live it.
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