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writes:hi. i'm 18 and my bf is also 18.. well, we dont want to lose virginity before marriage...we are gonna marry after 6 years,but right now we wanna try new stuff out..so what are the things apart from kissing that we can do so as to not cross the limit and still fulfill our sexual desires? we have laid half naked and kissed all over...want something new... can anyone plz suggest sumthin (not sex!)
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2008): Fade, I think I got me answer about Mr male anonymous. He's in denial, he's a bisexual, who has sex with both men and women. But since he thinks that anal sex is masturbation he can keep telling himself that he's as heterosexual as any straight guy. I've seen his type before.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2008): Forgot to add. No such thing as bisexual, confused is the word your looking for.
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reader, lovestruck!!! +, writes (2 November 2008):
lovestruck!!! is verified as being by the original poster of the question thanks a lot guys....wil definitely try dose stuff..... cheers! any more ideas?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2008): PS: Your statement is also wrong according to British law. The sexual offences Act 2003, makes it very clear that Anal penetration is sexual activity and can be classed as rape, if the victim is forced or consent is with held. Your definitions would allow paedophiles to anally rape little boys and girls and use the defence that no sex took place at all. I believe you are in need of basic sex education.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2008): Mr anonymous your definitions make no sense. According to you, two homosexual men, having Anal SEX, are not having sex at all. What do you define this as.
No woman or man should have any problems with their partners having anal SEX with men, cause it's not really sex at all. That would allow many bisexual people to get married and still have intimate relations with other people...
This may be indeed what you believe, but I doubt your partner will be understanding if you indulge in anal sex and say "hey honey, don't worry, it's not sex at all"....
HOMOSEXUALS CANNOT HAVE SEX ACCORDING TO YOUR DEFINITION, BECAUSE MEN DON'T HAVE VAGINA'S.... your definitions are very strange indeed.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2008): Putting your penis in a bum hole isn't sex. It is masturbation using a bum.
Sex is the meeting of genitalia of the opposite sex.
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2008): The Anal sex thing is still sex, and although you will be a "technical virgin", your ass won't and you'll be lying to yourself if you still think that you are pure. Anal sex should only be tried within a loving stable relationship, and is best left until after you are married. There are many "pretend virgins", who have never had vaginal sex, but have had many men put their penis up their ass. Not a good idea my friend. Firstly anal sex hurts a lot, a hell of a lot. Secondly there is a lot of bacteria round that area, so it's easy to spread infection and disease. Thirdly, this is the easiest way to spread HIV, as you are more likely to cut and tear, and thus allow the infection to pass between you and somebody else. If you are having Anal sex, please use a condom, but I suggest you leave this practice until you are married.
Kissing is good. Did you know there are a 1001 kisses that you can do. Kissing can also be exciting if you try doing it in different places (different locations, not body areas) Try kissing in bathrooms, kissing outside, sneaking kisses in public places. You could also try the "dry humping thing" rubbing your bodies together with all your clothes on. It is also fun and permissible to touch each other, as long as everybody stays fully dressed. I suggest you wear a pair of tights as well, and a top that is very hard to get off. This is frustrating, but fun, and you can both orgasm this way, but there is no chance in hell of anybody having sex, because the clothes stay on. Make yourself a rule. You can do anything together as long as the clothes stay on. Then you can be free to explore each other and be safe at the same time. It's also probably best to make another rule as well. If you are touching each other, then you should be standing up or do it only in a public place where temptation won't lead you astray...
Masturbation separately, but using the phone, or telling each other about your experiences is also sexy and fun. He stays in his house, you stay in your house, you can touch your naked body, and he can touch his, and you can think about each other, or talk to each other, about how much fun you will have on your wedding night. Perfectly safe and lots of fun.
Stay standing up, keep your clothes on when you are together, and then you can do as you please... Blessings, good luck and take care...
PS: Handholding, massages of head and shoulders, playing with each others feet, all these things can be sexy and fun as well. Please pick up a copy of the Karma Sutra, (available online for free) it is a classic book about sex. It has pages and pages of suggestions about kissing, touching and doing other things before you have sex, leave the suggestions about sexual intercourse in the book until after you get married...
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2008): How about masturbating separately?The things you are doing together will ultimately lead to sex.
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reader, epifanatical  +, writes (1 November 2008):
 Im from European origin, and we Europeans have always over the years traditionally preferred to remain chaste before marriage. However, to keep our virginity but still allowing ourselves to have fun, we engage in anal sex.
Anal sex is very pleasureable for both partners and very satisfying. Just experiement a bit, to see which kind of anal stimulation turns you on.
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reader, mizz_m  +, writes (1 November 2008):
 Before me and my bf started having sex we were petting, meaning touching eachother. Not only it is pretty sexy and fun, but it also brings people together too. You could try that. Once you get used to eachother you could try oral sex.
If that grosses you out, means you arent used to your bf. In that case you could try eating things off him eg. buy some strawberries and whipped cream or choco sause, and not only you two will have fun but you get to satisfy your sweet tooth (if you have one ;P)
Just talk to him about what he would like to do and decide together. But well done on the decision to keep your virginity. Shows you are responsible.
Use your imagination and dont be afraid to try new things. Just dont go over the top. Have fun and enjoy.
xxx Mizz M
Well I hope I helped
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reader, Jonty23 +, writes (1 November 2008):
Having been there - here is a list:
mutual masturbation
masturabting while the other watches/caresses
oral sex
'dry humping' (I hate the term - but you get the idea..) using thighs/buttocks/breasts - even armpits...
abstinence
It all depends on a) where you draw the line and b) how good your self control is...
good luck - whatever you decide...
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