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writes:Hello everyone, so I have been with my boyfriend for some years now and we have talked about marriage. He has already asked me if I would like to marry him (he's asked several times). I said yes each time except once (as a joke because he already knows the answer). Now my problem comes from rings. My hands are a little weird, I can't wear gloves too often because my hands start to tingle so I take them off. I have had gorgeous rings in the past as gifts but the same thing happens and I get annoyed by the tingle feeling and take them off. I even went to my doctor and allergist to see if I was allergic. Things came back negative. The metal on the rings were real silver and gold (gifts from my mother). So accepted the fact I just might not like hand accessories. So when my man asked me about engagement rings I'm a little lost at what to do. I can't wear stuff on my hands because that unpleasant tingling comes back. I'm not sure...is it rude to wear the ring around my neck? I asked him about it and he joked saying maybe he should get them made into ear rings ( I only take my ear rings off to clean them).What do you guys think? I understand if the situation sounds a little silly. Reply to this Question
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reader, Midnight Shadow  +, writes (19 January 2015):
 Any type of jewellery would be great; it's what it signifies, not the object itself :)
That said, I wouldn't advice matching tattooes because, forgive me for playing devil's advocate, but it would be an awfully permanent reminder if things didn't work out :/
I'd stick to objects (doesn't even have to be jewellery) that you can keep to signify the engagement, but won't be permanently attached to you, if sonething happens. Also, I don't think tattoos on your hands are a good idea if they get tingly anyway....
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reader, YouWish +, writes (19 January 2015):
 Have you gone to the doctor to get that diagnosed? That would be your first step whether you were engaged or not.
However, wearing the ring as a necklace around your neck would be appropriate if there is no alternative, or you can decide mutually on something else meaningful and symbolic.
Engagement rings are actually a recent tradition born from jewelry companies looking to make money. As early as less than 100 years ago, there weren't such things as them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2015): Wearing it as a necklace sounds like a good idea. :-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2015): I wasn't really a jewellery person, but it doesn't take long to forget they are there. If you really hate the feeling then wearing it on a necklace is a good idea, then when you are married you could have matching tattoos on your ring fingers?
Personally, it doesn't matter. A ring is an overrated statement and I hate it when brides to be get fussy over an engagement ring, or wedding ring. You both know you're devoted to each other. You both know you'll get married, you could give each other anything as a token to represent your commitment.
My husband asked me to marry him when we were 17, we walked to the church he thought I would like. We didn't make it "official" with a ring and telling people until we were 22 and had bought our home together - it just seemed in this day and age people are more judgemental of young couples and we felt there was no rush for an engagement and wedding when we knew we had the rest of our lives together. He bought me a charm for my charm bracelet that I added when we decided and that was a lovely reminder and token gift that didn't have to be a ring.
There's lots of options you could have that are unique and for you, earrings is a sweet option and together you'll think of something. Try looking on Pinterest for alternative engagement rings or similar you might find some inspiration :-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2015): It's your life so live by your rules. Wear them on a chain or have earrings or a bracelet or something instead. :) are you sure the things you were wearing weren't just too tight for your fingers? :)
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