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anonymous
writes:I've been seeing someone for around 2 weeks now and there is a chance i may be pregnant already, however we have used contraception each time and i am going to take a home pregnancy test tomorrow to be sure, i need to get a chance to tell him that there may be a chance of pregnancy but whenever we organise to meet up he cancels at the last minute, i don't want to find out im pregnant and have to deal with it by myself, any ideas on what i can say/do because i don't want to have to tell him via the phone or text him.
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (12 July 2011):
 Tackle this one problem at the time. Take the test first.
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reader, Fate100percent +, writes (12 July 2011):
There is no need to stress him out yet is there? If you used contraception correctly, you are probably not pregnant anyway! Get a test, and do it! If it proves positive, then you need to tell him you need to see him IN PERSON urgently!
Hopefully, you are not, so worry for no reason could even be delaying your period! Do the test first, stress later if you have something to stress about :-)
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (12 July 2011):
 There's no need to tell him about your fears. You take the test, on your own, you're a big girl you can handle it. Then if you actually are pregnant you have a talk with him about it. What do you expect him to do, watch you pee on the stick? It's a 5 minute wait, he doesn't need to hold your hand through it, there's nothing for you to deal with on your own here, just those 5 minutes of waiting for the result.
If you want to get him involved text him and ask him to pick you up a pregnancy test for you. A fear of pregnancy and the need for a test is not an important message that needs to be talked about face to face. You might well just send him a text to ask him to pick up the test for you.
I've taken any number of pregnancy tests in my life, as a simple reassurance that Im not pregnant. If the man happened to be around I'd mention I was going to take one, and also tell him the results if he happened to be around and it was brought up.
No need to jump the guns yet, take the test, and if you are pregnant you talk to him.
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reader, lilnursie  +, writes (12 July 2011):
It is too soon to know if you are pregnant..Let's think about this...you have been seeing this guy for 2 weeks...it takes 4 weeks minimum to know if you are preganant....so maybe that is why he is avoiding you because he thinks you are a little crazy.....be cool and wait it out...you may not be pregnant and all this will go away hopefully...if you used contraception you should not have a problem unless i.e. the condom broke. Good Luck!!!!
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (11 July 2011):
 If you are pregnant don't arrange to meet him. Turn up at his house with the positive test results then he can't avoid you.
Why are you worried you might be if you've used contraception?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2011): Personally I think it's a little early to tell if you're pregnant or not.
Anyways, I think you should text him and just say that you need to tell him something important. Tell him it can't wait. Be pushy if need be.
Hopefully he'll understand.
Best of luck.
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