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writes:I am fifteen and I have never been in love or even had a crush. I am attracted to boys, but I usually keep my distance from them to a point of not even talking to them. When people ask me why I never talk to boys at all socially, I usually answer with a sarcastic "Because they all have cooties" or something, but I think I am actually afraid of them.Is there something wrong with me? ll the other girls are constantly talking about their crushes and boyfriends, but when they ask me, I have nothing to say.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2012): Don't sweat the lack of a full blown boyfriend. Girls talk about their BFs at your age and then a few years later they look back and say their first real relationship wasnt until much later. At your age it isn't much more than ego-boosting and sexual playing around when people call themselves "couples".
Its understandable that you want that stuff as much as the next girl. But I am trying to say that you aren't behind in your development just because you have not become involved with a boy yet.
There are people who still don't date in any real way until college or longer. Quite a few actually. You have a long time before you become very usual.
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reader, Ebony-smylz  +, writes (8 July 2012):
Sweetheart,belive me,there is absolutely nothing wrong with you.people are different.thats one thing you shouldnt ever forget.you dont really have to say anything when ur friends are talking.but if u feel you must,you could just make a joke out of it and tell them ‘im allergic to boys‘.and everyone will laugh about it.perhaps now is not the right time for you to have feelings because the right person isnt here yet.so just wait a little.he is on his way.best of luck honey.***winks***
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reader, lovebaby126 +, writes (8 July 2012):
 Its scary I know and understand completely I did the exact same thing at your age. I promise you will grow our of it and probably end up being the one with the best and first honest relationship out of your friends. So next time they ask you get your woman balls out and tell them you are willing to wait to have true feelings and be mature about your :)
With love,
Jenna
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reader, MissTellAll +, writes (8 July 2012):
 Alright, first, no there isn't anything wrong with you. If you don't want to babble about boy trouble more power to you! It is not necessarily needed. Just because your friends love talking about boys doesn't mean you have to.
Now, to continue, you have no reason to be afraid of boys. Fifteen year old boys especially. Sure, some are overgrown for their age and try to act older than they are, but most I encounter are just awkward and nervous about girls. Boys are just people. Next time you have a chance to talk to a guy, try to make a simple joke. They make everyone feel more calm. Have a sense of humor, don't stress what your friends are doing, and know that there is nothing wrong with you.
Best of luck dear :)
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