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writes:Hellowell im a girl at the age of 15 and all my mates have done things with boys but im really scared to do things what could i do about it??i wouldnt mind doing things with boys but not sex at the age please help me write back please x Reply to this Question
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reader, xlittleredcutiex +, writes (10 June 2008):
keep do what you're doing.boys will respect you more if you don't give in easily.
its normal that you feel pressure but only do it when you feel ready,and you will know when you are :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2008): Hi babe!I am sixteen and in exactly the same situation as you.When I was your age, all my friends had given hand jobs, blow jobs, been fingered etc and I always felt left out.Now, when I am sixteen, all my friends have had sex and I am literally the only person I know who is still a virgin.The furthest I have ever been is kissing.Well, to help you, heres the deal:1. if you dont want to "miss the boat" and want to follow the crowd (people will slate that on here but to be honest if you feel it is important to fit in with your mates in that way then you should make an effort to fit in) there is nothing wrong with following a crowd, as long as you feel it is what you want to do. out of my own experience, I regret not "doing stuff with boys", as you put it, a year or so ago, because now I am left very inexperienced and everyone else has passed the stage of having "fun doing stuff with boys" at parties etc and are all into having sex with long term boyfriends.2. the bonus, I have found of having waited so long, not purposely mind (its just happened although i have had millions of opportunities to go further) is that I can hold my head high and declare I am not a tart or a slut when guys call me one for a laugh or to insult me. Also, many of my friends are envious of me as they find that guys prefer virgins and think of them as dirty/ easy.write back on this posting if you want any more advice hope i have helped you xxx
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reader, jay12toes  +, writes (9 June 2008):
 one thing i always remember is that you can never have a secound first time, for example you cant have a secound first kiss. once youv had your first kiss you cant get it back. so dont do anything with someone that you think you might want back.
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reader, misfitschik66  +, writes (9 June 2008):
 just because your friends have done things(which they may be lieing) doesent mean you have to.. do things when you are ready if your scared it means you arent ready
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reader, lexilou +, writes (9 June 2008):
 Well first or all not all the girls who say they have done things are telling the truth!! Some lie to fit in with the crowd.
Please dont feel you have to compete as you dont. if you are scared then you are simply not ready yet. Never be pressured either by your peers or by a boy to do something you are not completely happy with. You have a whole lifetime to experiment and many years of adulthood ahead of you yet your childhood years are so short and fleeting. Just be you and wait for things to progress naturally which they will x
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