A
female
 ,
*MiiSS-CALDERx
writes:i have just turned sixteen in june. all my friends are a few months older than me but all lost their virginity when they just turned 15. so i have now turned into their virgin friend. when were are all out together and the subject of sex turns into conversation i am not totally clueless i do know a thing or two just not about full on sex. if i try to be involved in the conversation i just get laughed at and they make up virgin jokes. like i have never had the sex so i am not as good as them. loads of people tell me i am much more respectable than them as most of them lost the virginity ouside in the bushes or in a tent. all my friends have slept with at least 3 guys and as i have none i am kind of left out. they are the ones that get all the boyfriends as they are so upfront about the fact i am a virgin so the boys tend to go for them. maybe because they are easy but maybe they are just more attrative. i am not going to have sex just to fit in with them again. dont get me wrong! they are great mates sometime. just not so much anymore because they arent virgins. i just dont wanna be the main reason that they are laughing and i am gettin fed up of being told I am a virgin. i know i am. i have respect for myself! but i am missing out on all the laughs and fun because its me their laughing at. all the boys i know go straight for my mates, or go out with me for a while then move on to my mates. why are they so much better than me? how can i get up to their level without having sex if am not ready? however, there is this one guy that has liked me for a while and he seems really turned on by that fact i am a virgin because i havent been around with guys. he dosent seem to care about the sex but am sure one day he will and how will i know if i am ready or not? note from moderator: Please use punctuation in your posts. It make them much easier to read! This is the second post of yours I have had to add puntuation to, and I dont want to see them start to get rejected.
View related questions:
move on Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2007): you are wayy more respectable than them because when you get older and look at the situation you will be pleased you didnt become a sheep (copy your friends) dont let them forse you in to it because you will regret it later on in life when your bringing up a child singlehandedly when your still a child yourself just honestly take my advice and dont let anyone pressure you in to doing anything your not yet ready for and you will be okay :):D
A
male
reader, Andy00 +, writes (26 July 2007):
 First of all, you're virginity isn't just something you should lose for the sake of it. It's something you should share with somebody you love. I'm willing to bet a couple of your friends who have had sex have broken up with the boyfriend they did it with.Secondly, you aren't by any means less of a person than any of them. The fact that they make fun of you for being a virgin when you have ONLY JUST turned 16 is just rediculous. I too did not lose my virginity till I was 17. I will also add that at 17, I was the first of all of my close friends to have had sex. This means that my friends were the ages of 16/17 and were ALL virgins too.Finally, being a virgin isn't a negative thing. It only means that you have not found the right person yet. But you will. And only then should you give yourself to them. Don't rush into anything. If your friends are teasing you then that gives a very poor impression of the kind of people they are, because anyone who mocks anyone for being a virgin at your age is just a bragging moron.Ignore them, and dont rush into having sex for them, do it for yourself.
...............................
A
female
reader, O Connor  +, writes (26 July 2007):
 first of all your friends are NOT better than you!!you cant get up to their level because they are not above you - they are below you.i think it is very admirable to know that you are not ready to sleep with guys and have respect for yourself. dont lose that - at the end of the day you are going to be the one that comes out with a loving relationship with a guy who loves and respects you. the way your friends lost their virginity is not something i would be proud of!the next time they make fun of you turn around and say 'id rather be a virgin than lose it in a bush!' - fight fire with fire, dont say it spitefully but as a joke!email me and ill talk to you more about this as i have lots to say but id rather talk to you through email hun, xxx
...............................
A
female
reader, daisy99999 +, writes (26 July 2007):
 sweety don't you worry - i lost my virginity when i was 17, with a 27 yr old guy and then they got left out of the conversation because they hed only been with immature 17 yr old boys who dont know what they are doing. trust me, waiting to do it with someone special is well worth it. good luck xx
...............................
|
