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writes:Hello everyone,I am 15 and so are all of my friends, at least five of them are doing things with there boyfriends which I would Never do! For example some are being friged? One has been licked out and one has given a hand job - Even when I fall in love I wouldn't do those things. I want to be in love with someone before I have sex, which will be a while from now (around 3+ years). Do men/males prefer a virgin at 19/21 who hasn't had any sexual experiances?I can't look at my friends in the same way, they all seem dirty and horrible for allowing boys to use their bodies in such a way. Does anyone agree with me or should IO rethink my opinion?Help is always apreciated. Thank you for reading
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reader, SweetSmoochy  +, writes (16 March 2011):
 I'm proud of you for standing up for your beliefs. You're not wrong or weird, so never give in to any kind of pressure that goes against your true feelings. I think you're being really smart.
One thing that worries me though is that you can't look at your friends the same way. Although what they have "done" doesn't define them as people, and they are still the friends you loved, if you really can't move past these facts about them, you should probably get a new group of friends so as to avoid that clash.
Otherwise, try to ignore that part of them on the basis that you do not have to do what they do. Who knows? Maybe in the future, they might figure out that they made mistakes doing those things and want to talk to you about it, as you seem like a person with a good head on your shoulders.
Best of Luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2011): don't worry about what guys will think, because if you meet someone who truly loves you, for who you are, they won't care. let your friends do what they need to do, it doesn't mean you have to do it too. your making a great decision by Not doing it too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 March 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you everyone for your replies, I have rated you all high :) I really apreciate your comments, views and opinions.Thanks againxx
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reader, MikeEa1  +, writes (15 March 2011):
 when I look back on my life I don't regret starting to have sex late. It allowed me to explore other aspects of my life without the pressure of relationships and sex. And there are a lot of other aspects that you should learn about when you are young. I know there's internal pressures and peer pressure to get you involved with sex and relationships at a young age, but it's not worth it. Enjoy your life and get to know yourself firstly and foremost.
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reader, C. Grant  +, writes (15 March 2011):
 There isn't a thing wrong with the way you're thinking. What's wrong is to 'do stuff' for the wrong reasons -- when you're not ready, because of peer or b/f pressure, whatever.
Good for you for knowing your mind!
As for reassurance, when I was in first year uni I met a 19 y/o girl who'd never so much as kissed a guy. That was a fine experience, and I was fortunate to have it. No worries on that account.
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reader, Dataluke +, writes (15 March 2011):
 It doesn't matter what we think, its about what you think.
I admire you greatly for taking this stance, its not easy to resist what everyone else is doing.
It is up to you what you do with your body at what ever time you want. And if your friends don't appreciate that then you need to find a new set of friends, i would recommend 'cleaner' ones.
All the best, Dataluke
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