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writes:I had a bad breakup with my ex boyfriend in 2014 December before new year's eve. We dated for four months before the break up. I was not happy with him because he wanted to take my virginity even when i told him many times politely that i was not ready. He was the first guy i took off my clothes completely for the day he told me "we are just going to play baby" i trusted him since i loved him. I wanted to make him happy, we didnt have sex just played. He would make me feel like i am the one to blame always when we had problems like the time i had to choose between seeing him and doing my schoolwork. I chose to do my schoolwork he got angry then i would ignore him until he realises i was not paying attention then he runs back crying like an old baby asking for apologies (he is 5 years older than me). He is working but has never done anything nice for me. He is a smoker and he drinks but that did not bother me much because he kept himself clean and never drank when he was with me. His best friend liked me a lot i felt like he was my brother. His friend was begging me to take him back after I dumped him when i found out that he had a crush on one of my friends he tried to propose her on facebook then she told me. He admitted everything he was accused of and tried to apologise but i was over and done with him. Ive never been so hurt by someone i thought loved me. He called me trying to "check up on me" twice after the breakup i told him i dont want to hear from him again then he stopped contacting me. I still hate this guy today, he thinks he is better and smarter than everyone. On facebook he was in a relationship with some girl i asked him about it he lied to my face and told me the girl is his cousin (she is not from my hometown so i never met). I found out later after the breakup that he lied to me. When we began dating also some girl just appeared claiming she is dating him but i chose to believe him when he told that girl that he wanted to be with me and not her. He goes around pissing off a lot of people he is heart broken, heartless and sad inside (he writes a lot of crap on his timeline). I had two facebook accounts I stopped using the old one and was using the new one. On the new one i blocked him. I have not been on the old since 2014 yesterday i logged in and realised he has sent me a friend request. His relationship status now says that he is single. Should i accept it and see if he has changed or that i can find closure and move on. He still has my necklace i left at his place and never went to fetch it. Can i use it as a way to try to get back at him? I loved him he said he loved me too but now all i think about when his name comes up is anger and hate. I want to forgive him. Do you think i should give him another chance?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2016): Thank you, Pureflame. I hope he has changed he has been telling me that now he has to show. Also BrownWolf is right this guy is like a dog that keeps biting me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2016): Yes there is a guy who has shown great interest in my life right now and we are still taking things slow. I just got a text message from my ex saying that he has changed and wants to be a better guy for me and that he still loves me. I see your point BrownOwl. He has not changed a bit clearly he has not accepted the fact that what we had is dead and gone. Thank you 3.
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reader, Pureflame  +, writes (23 June 2016):
For the anger and hate to go away you need to realise that you took the right decision dear. I agree with brownwolf. You cannot be in contact with this person. If you think that makes it better, trust me it doesn't. Trust your decision and keep no contact with him.
Finding an excuse to track him down, is just going to end in heart ache.
As for if he has changed, if he has, you'll find out eventually. Don't go out of your way to check up on that. Though chances are, he hasnt changed at all.
Good luck.
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (23 June 2016):
If you want hate and anger to go away, and he is the source of that hate and anger...you really want to keep him around as a friend??? That is like having a dog that bites you every time you get close, but you keep him in your house as a pet. Only means you enjoy pain and suffering.
First of all...Let go of the hate and anger. He is just one man in a world of billions. If you let this one guy bring you to this state, then you are in serious trouble.
Anger is a seed for hate. When hate grows into tree...you will have a very hard time getting another relationship. The moment guys sense that baggage...they are gone.
People like your ex should NOT be any where near you. It should be as find you never knew him. No contact, no pictures, and if anyone ask you "Hey, didn't you use to date him?" You say nope...just a guy I use know.
NEVER...EVER...keep people in your life that makes you feel bad about yourself. He is not marriage material, then he should not matter to you.
I am very sure you have better things to do, and much better guys to spend your time with...right?? :))) Do not waste your sexy on foolish men....PLEASE.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2016): No i would not choose him to be my husband if i had to but is there no way that i could be friends with him? I just want the anger and hate to go away.
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reader, BrownWolf +, writes (23 June 2016):
LOVE...not in this case. You love having someone in your life to call a boyfriend...but think about it long and hard....
Do you really need a guy like this as boyfriend??
If I had to choose a man to marry and spend the rest of my life with...would I choose a guy like him?
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