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writes:I told the person I've loved for two years how I felt today. I've known him longer than I've known any other man: we've always been close and flirted. Today, we both stripped and saw each other naked- the height of our flirting.It's apparent he cares about me. He calls me hon and babes, and is always loving and supportive when I need him to be. He seems not to think he's good enough for me, but I am totally besotted with him.He didn't say anything to me telling him I loved him except "Awwwww babes!" He didn't say anything in return.Eventually I thanked him for the wonderful chat we had today, and he said "what are friends for?"I don't understand- I'm hurt and heartbroken and angry and confused.The only thing I can think of that's holding us back is our distance. It's about 200 miles.Either that or he doesn't love me, at least not in the way I want him to.Please help me someone- I can't stop crying, and I'm just wishing I hadn't said anything now.xxx
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reader, Herr Professor +, writes (14 September 2006):
 Okay, sweetie, did you tell him that you loved him, or that you were IN LOVE with him? There's a huge difference. If you two are close friends, he probably thought you meant that you love him as friend.
What I can't figure out is how you two saw one another naked. This suggests to me that you two were stripping on a webcam or something. So, if he's 200 miles away, and you are taking your clothes off via webcam to flirt with him, he probably sees it as fun and games with an internet buddy, not the basis for a serious relationship. I don't think he meant to hurt to you. I just don't think he's looking at things the same way you are. You need to talk honestly with him about your feelings and try to determine what he feels before things get more out of control.
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reader, camille +, writes (14 September 2006):
 Don't worry. Perhaps he thought you said that you loved him as a friend? You are after all friends. That's why he calls you names of affection and is supportive etc. The thing here is the flirting... what the hell is getting naked all about? You're both crossing a line. Friends don't get naked. I don't know how and why you got to that but it has to stop. You have feelings for him and maybe he doesn't have the same kind of feelings for you. Maybe he does feel the same and has difficulty saying "I love you". You have to talk to him if you want the answers but honestly, knock the flirting on the head, it's not innocent, you're getting hurt.
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