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writes:I am 15 and am year 11 at school, i met this guy in year 9 (two years younger) about 3 months ago. over these 3 months we have got closer and closer, last month though i slept with another guy and this really made my close friend very angry although we got through this all, i know that he is finding it hard to trust me, he keeps on denying to everyone even his close friends that anything is happing between us, but then when we are alone all he ever talks about is how much he loves me and wants to spent every moment with me. we both know that it is going to be hard being together with an age gap like ours, as even my best friends think its weird.I dont know if there is anyway i can make him trust me again, or if there might be any reason he might not want to tell anyone about "us", i just want to know if there is anyway i can make it seem less weird to everyone that we are together and i need a way to show this to him, so that we can spent more time together without having to lie to everyone
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionJust a quick note to say thanks for the adviceand to mention that the sex was a mistake that happened at a party
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionjust to add to this, i time i had sex was at a party and was a mistake.that i will never repeat again but thanks for the advice
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reader, Jay_Jacks +, writes (26 November 2009):
 I totally get that with you being 15 and him 13 that seems like a HUUUGE age gap. Especially as girls generally mature faster than boys. In the long run though, 2 years is nothing. If you both really like each other and enjoy spending time in each others company what does it matter?
I also get why he doesn't want to tell his friends that anything is going on. Boys can be quite cruel sometimes and he is probably just protecting himself from his mates taking the mick. Not out of you, but out of him, you know what lads are like! *rolls eyes*
Your 15. And having sex. Why?
I would strongly advise you to hold off sleeping with guys until you are emotionally and mentally ready, trust me, I'm speaking from experience. Eventually sleeping with guys casually will make you feel really crappy. You seem like a sweet girl and deserve lots of good things! Plus guys respect women more for not giving up the goods at the first opportunity.
Be satisfied with the lovliness that your friendship is. Don't try to rush it or him. Just enjoy sharing memories together... and forget about what anyone else things! Its YOUR life! Lead it the way YOU want to, not how someone else says you should!!
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