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writes:heyaa im 14 and i went out with this guy who was 16 and he sed he liked me and loved me but then whenevr he asked 4 sex i sed no and then the next day he dumped me but thing is i still love him after wot he did to me and i keep thinkin did he only go out wiv me for sex? Reply to this Question
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reader, emma xxx +, writes (12 March 2010):
emma xxx is verified as being by the original poster of the question thanx 4 the advice lovevivi i know i was stupid i shouldnt of stuck with him if i need help i know who to turn to
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reader, SaphiraGold16 +, writes (19 February 2010):
 Babes seriously if a guy asks you for sex, you say no and he dumps you the following day; then clearly he isnt mature enough to have sex, let alone have sex with a 13-15 year old.You'll find someone new who is patient, who will wait until you are both mature and ready to have sex.MOST 16 year old guys have one thing in mind and some of them arent worth wasting your "love" on.xoxo
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reader, emma xxx +, writes (19 February 2010):
emma xxx is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanx 4 ya support and im glad u answered me question x
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reader, Horsefan14  +, writes (19 February 2010):
This just recently happened to me also and it's gonna be really hard I know but you have to forget about him. Doesn't have to be completely I mean you can still be friends but do your best to put him past you. Try not to dwell on it you'll find someone who is interested in you and not just for sex. Good luck hun. I hope it all turns out ok
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reader, adamantine  +, writes (19 February 2010):
 Honey, don't listen to a young man when he says he loves you. It is apparent that he only wanted sex. I'm glad you said no. Try and hold off from boys if you can, most of them in their teens will only use you once you put out and drop you when they get bored.
Try to weed out the good from the bad by staying true to yourself.
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reader, lovevivi +, writes (19 February 2010):
 You are certainly correct. I'm sorry to say but you have been led along and used. If anyone, man or woman, dumps someone after they've said no to sex, then that's all he or she wanted.
Be grateful that you said no because the moment you give in, he will control you and you will have given him the satisfaction of knowing that he can demand anything from you. Your body is not property, and definitely not HIS property! If he did "love" you then he wouldn't have dumped you for saying no to something you're uncomfortable with.
Please listen to me hun when I say that you're not in love with him. You have a very large crush and probably are infatuated but you have PLENTY of years left in your life to find a guy who will wait for you to be comfortable enough to have sex. If you give into pressure, you will most certainly regret it.
Please consider giving it another couple months time to see if you still "love" him before you do anything rash like ask him to take you back or agree if he asked you to get back with him. Think things out rationally and if all else seems hopeless, imagine, what would happen if you gave him sex, you get pregnant with a child at 14, and then he leaves you? Hopefully that never happens, but do understand that it's a possibility if you believe that he's worth loving and having as a boyfriend.
Best of luck to you.
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