A
male
age
41-50,
*abibi
writes:Dear CupidI am involved in a gay relationship with my best friend. He is married but now separated. We have been together about 1year and 5 months. We have never had sex as yet but we do sleep together in the same bed when I go spend the night at his home we do hug each other and i take care of him alot and he likes that.But what confuses me is that he sometimes tells me that he does not love me and he loves nobody. I spend all my time with him and I feel very safe with him. And then he tells me he loves me. I want to have sex with him so badly and I always tell him i want it. He said that when we go to canada we will be free to do whatever we want so have patience. But i don't pressure him. He told me that he wants to marry me and he will take me to Canada to get married later this year. He is an Arab guy and I am black so our cultures are so different but I do understand him alot he has to be very macho around his family and friends and he goes and have sex with girls and he always wants me to be there with him, but its so obvious that he loves me and even my friends and his family say that. But we got into a really big fight on new years eve night it was awful and he slapped me in my face really hard. But that was not the first time he hit me, he hit me also on Boxing Day and busted my nose because I was telling him about his friend which i dont like so i hit him and he hit me back. I don't know what to do should I stay with him or should I leave him. I love him so much and this man wants to marry me. Its just now with all the fighting for the past week I am scared of him now a little. What should I do?
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reader, shania  +, writes (4 January 2010):
 Thank you paulofessex....:)
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reader, paulofessex +, writes (3 January 2010):
 I would second Shania's very good answer (Rated your answer Shania as it is clear and concise)
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2010): shania answered the question perfect!! listen to her! xx
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reader, shania +, writes (2 January 2010):
Walk away...this guy is not making you happy, he's making you sad, frustrated and frightened...is this what you want in a relationship? This guy is a tease..he throws you a few crumbs by sharing your bed and with great promises of Canada and marriage....nah, i dont buy it.He is stringing you along.If this fella was really in love with you then he would want to make you happy and he would want to show his love through the act of sex, but he doesn't and its been going on like this for 6 months.
If i was you, i would stop all contact...no text messages...no phone calls...no emails...nothing...then lets see how much he does want you.The ball is in your court.Good luck!
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