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writes: My boyfriend has been on house arrest for the last year, we live together and have been together for the last 5yrs. Hence, I too have been on house arrest. Not going out together, his not being able to work, me forking over rent, bills ect. What money he does get goes on HIS enjoyments. He is now finished with the house arrest, and he goes with his buddies, gets drunk. Am I wrong in feeling his first night free should have been for us, maybe dinner, GOING OUT, enjoying what we've missed for the last year, or should I be enlightened that he chose to go with his friends and get drunk? I feel used, betrayed and unappreciated for what I gave up, and his first night he's free went with his friends and his drinking as a celebration. Am I justified for feeling this way?
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reader, Hopeful +, writes (8 March 2006):
 Tell him how you feel. I don't blame you for feeling down about this - many people would!
It was insensitive what he did but talk to him and you will find out the reasons behind it. Maybe he just wasn't thinking and didn't intend to hurt you.
Tell him, really calmly, you felt a bit slighted and maybe suggest for a few things you can do together.
Also - you are very good standing by through all this - the extra work, stress and responsibility that you took on is simply amazing and obviously you love this man very much so make sure that this gets talked about so the relationship can keep on being strong.
Good Luck!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2006): Noo... it isn't wrong of you to feel his first night should be for you two, he should have taken you out shown how much he apperecated you sticking by him for the past year as you've worked so hard to look after him he should taken the night and made him it speical for you.
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reader, Leah +, writes (8 March 2006):
 you should feel very hurt that he didnt includ you.. he can always have time for his buddys but he should first come and see you... that is what is important! talk to him tell him how you feel... dont let him get away with this....
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