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writes:I think exactly 50 days back, I dumped my girlfriend who would yell at me like hell for small thing like why my room sounds like garbage with everything all over the place. Finally, I gave up and dumped her . We were together for 4 years and we had everything matching except this occasional yelling from her side. Last month , when I dumped her , she won me back within one month through endless SMS and Calls saying her world was so incomplete without me and stuffs. After five weeks, we got back together. As soon , she stepped into my room, the first thing she started taking notice of was my room look , whispering with herself that without her , I can’t fix my room and she started organizing things but not yelling at me. It’s been 13 days, since we are together and I know she forced her way back into my life. But for the last three days, I started developing same old passionate feeling for her again, kissing her passionately for the last two days. She was telling me last night that during period of our separation , she would struggle for sleep as my memories would keep sleep miles away from her and I could see that when I saw her after one month. I am wondering now that it was her who was responsible for breakup or it was me who was crazy and couldn’t handle that thing well? If it was me , then should I apology to her while putting a side my ego? Dear Cupid, pleas help me on this. Thanking you all in anticipation!
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reader, Trinklett  +, writes (24 October 2011):
 You've made up. The gentlemanly thing to do is to apologize. If you're here asking if you should, then a part of you is thinking its the thing to do. But also tell her that she's going to have to put up with your room being like that (sometimes) just as I'm sure there are somethings you have to put up with with her.
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reader, fishdish  +, writes (23 October 2011):
 I think the real problem is that she doesn't accept who you are. yes, she didn't scream at you for how you take care of your room this time, but I think the underlying problems are there (ie. her controlling nature, shown through her talking about how you can't handle living in a clean environment and starting to pick after you like you're a child). And now you're wondering if you got played. I think you should make sure that she understands that you're a grown man and as much as you like her, you are an independent person. I don't think you necessarily did anything wrong in dumping her and I think you're not out of the woods yet to determine whether you overreacted or not. what's important right now is to determine whether the foundation is healthy/conducive to your lifestyle, or whether she just can't handle who you really are.
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reader, Xearo  +, writes (23 October 2011):
Yes, say sorry to her, because indeed perhaps you could have handled the situation better. Perhaps you could have cleaned your room out of respect for your gf of four years. Perhaps yes, she did not need to yell at you just to make you understand. Put aside your ego and say sorry. It will benefit you in the sex department in the future.
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