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writes:Me and my boyfriend have been on a break for about 10 days. We talked once online, he IM me first and it was short. I told him about my weekend and how much fun it was. I had lunch with his mom cause she was concerned about what was going on and we are just so close. So anyway she told me that he has been in complete shut down, he just goes to his classes, comes home, and sits in his room all day. He doesnt talk to his mom or dad much or anyone for that matter, he just sits there. I still have not started any convos with him or anything,I have been going out and working and focusing on myself, but he just left me online asking if we could maybe meet at the park after he was done some stuff.. When i came home from work and saw it i finally said after a few hours that i would feel great to talk but i also feel so tired and ihave things to do. That was... So what is he feeling?? what is going on?? What will happen? Will we get back together? Help!
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reader, needs2know +, writes (8 October 2007):
needs2know is verified as being by the original poster of the question These are from my other questions i have posted just so you guys get the idea of why we are here..
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I cannot figure out my boyfriend. We just celebrated out 1 year aniversary together a couple weeks ago. It was the greatest day, very cute and romantic, and the private part of the night--fantastic!! hah. Any way we dont see each other as much as we used to cause we both have school and work.. To make it short we didnt made sure to get things done for the next two days (so we didnt see each other)so that way we could spend the whole day together. Well he called and cancelled and really there was no choice to the matter cause he dad had the control in that situation. I got upset tho, because we have had plans cancelled before and I told him i was just upset with the situation not him. But he got upset with me so it got worse and i hung up the phone. I realized that i over reacted and appologized to him. I also am having problems with that girly monthly thing where i have had it for 10 months straight now! After that he has been up and down with me. When he is with me he is great and nice, but then other times he wont even look at me. Sometimes he will tell me he loves me and then he wont. I know he is stressed with school, cause he wants a great GPA and all of that. I think thats great! And that he had to buy some expensive stuff because his old stuff broke. So I dont know what to do to get him to understand where I am at, and so i know where he is. Why is he so moody i dont get it.
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So i tried to talk to my boyfriend last night, to have that neutral conversation. So that way he can tell me how he feels annd how i feel. IT backfired! He can never tell me hows hes feeling really. This is what i got from hhim: "I feel rushed with school and work and having this relationship. I have to hurry do everything to make sure i can do everything. Its not fair to you or me with lack of time we spend with each other and its like we hang out as friends, and dont do anything special."
I want him back--I do i just dont want to get my hopes up ya know.. Thanks guys!!!
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reader, XxAngelDust89xX +, writes (8 October 2007):
 Well, it really depends on why you broke up in the first place. I don't belive that going and talking to him will do any harm, but if you don't want to get back together, stand your ground. Don't let his friends/family, or the way he looks/ is acting influence your descision.
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reader, huneygyrl +, writes (8 October 2007):
 Go talk to the boy. Why did you guys break up in the first place? It does sounds like he misses you a lot. What do you have to lose? Go meet up with him. Talking things out is always great.
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reader, Tigerlily +, writes (8 October 2007):
It sounds like he misses you a lot and wants to get back together. I say go talk to him... even if you don't get back together, break ups are still really hard and it's good to talk about things, resolve old issues and get closure. Either way you should definately meet him in person, talk and see what he has to say.
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