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writes: I was in a relationship for 10months then i fell pregnant we split up then got back together when my daughter was born at first our sex life was great but over the last 6months it has gone down hill it does not feel the same as we argue most of the time and it feels as if the relationship is falling apart and we r only staying 2gether for the sake of our daughter what can i do 2 get those feelings that i used 2 have bk
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reader, Phoebe Halliwell  +, writes (12 June 2006):
 Dear Reader,
Maybe he wasn't ready for a family?
If he isn't interested in being a family or helping you raise your daughter then why bother? this is not my ususal approach to things but it's your daughter I'm rooting for here. As she gets older, she's going to start wondering why Mummy's upset. Little ones can pick up on this like this. I think this little girl needs a family, not Mummy and boyfriend. As further problems, don't hesitate to contact me!
All the best,
Phoebe
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reader, Country Woman +, writes (28 May 2006):
 Relationships always change once a child comes into the scene as the dynamics of how you used to be with one another is no longer the same. Your time is now dedicated to your child and your partner probably feels left out.
How much do you let him do with your daughtr? Does he want to get involved in everything to do with her i.e. changing nappies or playing with her? Do you go out as a family at all, for the odd meal or trip to the park etc?
Your emotions are completely different and hormones change after childbirth.
I am surprised that you actually managed to have a sex life after your daughter was born, it is quite common for couples to have a non existent love life for anything between a year upwards so don't feel like you are on your own.
Try to get some time on your own even if that is some time for getting out for a drink while a family member or close friend babysits for your daughter.
It is just finding the things that you fell in love with about one another again and not seeing the parent scenario.
Arguing is common as well, are you constantly tired or worn out and what are the arguments normally about? Is it money, lack of help or silly things?
Let me know and the more you start to look at the factors that make up the arguments or understand your body right now you may start to recognise where the problems are.
We all go through this you know so just stay strong and let me know some of the answers to the questions eh!
Take care.
BFN
Country Woman
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