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writes:Last weekend I went out for some drinks with a guy,he is 4 years younger than me so I was a little uncertain whether I wanted to or not. He insisted that he was looking for a relationship and seemed nice enough,so I went. Things really went well I thought. We talked,we laughed,had a good time and talked about so many different topics that I can't even remember all of it. We had a little too much to drink though,and I stayed with him that night. We had sex,but we didn't only have sex. We talked a long time just laying there,and it was really nice and felt very comfortable to me. He said that he likes me,just kind of out of the blue and in a matter of fact tone of voice...hard to explain,but the way he said it was just adorable.So now if we fastforward to a week later,he seems to be ignoring me. We talked via text a little the day I came back home,and a little less the next day. Then nothing. I texted him after a couple days to see how his week was going,and got no reply. I waited about a day and a half and told him if he's no longer interested he can tell me,it's common respect. He replied a day later and said "I'm still interested hun." He didn't offer any apology or reason why he hasn't replied to me or tried to initiate conversations all week. I do know he ignored a text from me before we went out too,but I didn't think a whole lot of it because he texted me the next day. He didn't mention why he didn't text back that time either,just went as though it didn't happen.Anyways,I did text him back hours later after he said he's interested (figured I'd make him wait like he does to me),and just told him if he really is interested,time will tell. He didn't respond back.I'm very confused,and I'm not just hanging on to him,I am seeing other people since we are not an item. But I really did enjoy his company and I thought he enjoyed mine as well. Do you think I should give up hope and just assume he really is not interested? I don't plan on intitiating contact with him again,but if he contacts me wanting to go out I know I'll want to go,but don't know if I should? Am I right to feel like he's not interested after the way he's been acting or should I just chill out?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2011): Hes a player, he sweet talked you and now that he got what he wanted hes moving on and hoping you will take the hint.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2011): No guy is going to come right out and tell you how uninterested they are so they just fizzle things out by disappearing. You had a one night stand and the guy said what worked in order to get laid. Now he's hoping you'll take the hint sorry to say!
A good rule of thumb is to not jump in bed with someone you might really like right away. Most guys will lose interest because of how easy the conquest was and the ones truly looking for something more will disqualify you just on that. They will take what you are so easily offering and then vanish, repeating the process over and over with low esteemed women until they can find one they can respect.
The truth is guys don't have to be attracted to you or connect with you in order to have sex with you but they'll never tell you that. They'll ONLY date the women they find attractive and connect with and will be happy to wait. It's really in your best interests to make them wait so you can weed out the ones who don't really like you that much, instead of having sex with them and shouldering the burden of the raid. You were looted then booted is what it simply comes down to.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (4 September 2011):
 If he was interested then he would have kept in contact with you especially after the night of sex. But he didn't, it's been you contacting him and silence on his end. I'm sorry, 1 text.
It sounds as if he fed you this bullshit lie of wanting a relationship, had a night of sex with you, and then no call back or text. Take it at face value and let it go.
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reader, soon567 +, writes (4 September 2011):
I find texting impersonal for a relationship, but others dont. I dont see that hes into you as you thought, but i could be wrong. I would refrain from sex if your looking for a LTR, what is on offer could just be a booty call.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (4 September 2011):
 He does not act as if he is really interested, and most of all it does not sound as if he is interested in a relationship with you.
( Regardless of what he said- people say whatever is convenient... )
I think he is interested ... as long as you don't cost him much effort , he does not have to keep in touch with you or explain you the hows and whys; casually interested let's say.
Of course , as you rightly say, only time will tell, and I might be wrong. But ,like my grandma used to say , " when it's gonna be good weather you see it from early morning "...
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