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writes:Do I or don’t I break up with my partner? We have been seeing each other for 3 years now and I suspect him of seeing some one else. How shall I approach him to ask him if it’s true? Help please!!! Reply to this Question
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reader, JDinCali  +, writes (26 February 2011):
 OOPs! Guess I'm a rebel. lol, scratch that then, better to hire a real private eye, if talking gets you no where and you can afford it.
Good luck.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (26 February 2011):
I should point out in light of the poster talking about key-logging spyware, that it is illegal to hack into someone's email with that software on anyone's computer but your own. So, if he has his own computer and you hack, you are breaking the law and might get arrested.
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reader, Noczy  +, writes (26 February 2011):
 Its bad in my opinion. I had a boyfriend.. who lived 2-life. He was with me officially, but he had another gf... I ddnt knw that, but the other girl knew me. Then she made my boyfriend to break up with me. HE DID IT... IT HURTED ME LIKE ANYTHING... At least he told me the truth, that the has sb else... Now its after 1 year... i see on facebook that HE PROPOSED THE GIRL!! ... but now i dont care... So ingore it. It will be painfull, but dont live a life in lies!
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reader, firstlovelastlove  +, writes (26 February 2011):
 You're thinking about breaking up because you "suspect" him? 3 years is a long time if you ask me. What is it that you have that makes you think he's cheating? Is there any other reason you would want to break up with him besides cheating? Any way you could put a little more information up here?
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reader, JDinCali +, writes (26 February 2011):
CaringGuy is 100% correct. I've dealt with cheaters before and every time they'll deny, because they hate getting caught. They think they were being sly, doing something dangerously fun without getting caught and it's humiliating for the truth to expose the fact they're not that sly and they should have known better.
Yes, you need evidence, so you can take the next step.
Suggestions:
Golden Eye is kind of a "private eye" spy ware, that will take pictures routinely on a computer when its in use. Only someone with a secret key stroke password can access it's memory, (as the program is hidden from view).
Your gut is telling you something, and you're most likely correct. Worst part of it is, you probably don't know the half of it. It's a very sobering moment to find out all the things someone is doing behind your back.
Behavior is very action/reaction, so if someone isn't acting right, there's always a reason. You deserve honesty.
Hope everything works out.
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reader, The Girl with the Diver's Hair +, writes (26 February 2011):
Dont approach him!! That is the worst possible thing you could do. You need proof that he actua;lly is cheating on you. Why would he after 3 years though? Listen to CaringGuy :)
Good Luck. E
Dont do anything drastic x
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (26 February 2011):
You need evidence. Confront him with nothing, and he'll lie. Split up, and you might be making a mistake. What makes you think he's cheating?
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